4 Signs God Is Protecting You from a Bad Relationship with a Woman

Psalm 37:23

Here are 4 signs God is protecting you from a bad relationship with a woman

1. If You Start Pursuing a Woman But Then You Realize She Is Not Who She Portrayed Herself to Be, God Is Protecting You from a Bad Relationship

Many times a man questions God, “Why did you let me pursue this woman if you knew she was not going to be good for me? If you knew she wasn’t who I thought she was, why did you let me get my hopes up?”

God wants you to develop into a mature Christian man; therefore, he’s going to treat you like a mature Christian man. An immature man will be treated like a toddler who needs his parents to walk beside him and control his every movement. A mature man, however, uses his God given faculties to follow the Lord’s leading in his life.

In other words, God isn’t going to micromanage your life because that defeats the purpose of making a man. Rather, God wants to lead and guide you as you make decisions. Sometimes he will lead you not to pursue a woman; but at other times, he will reveal the truth to you through your pursuit of the woman. Notice how God blessed the courage of Joab:

If the Syrians are too strong for me, then you shall help me, but if the Ammonites are too strong for you, then I will come and help you. Be of good courage, and let us be courageous for our people, and for the cities of our God, and may the Lord do what seems good to him.” (2 Samuel 10:11-12).

He didn’t know what would happen. He just made a wise plan and did what he thought was right. God then blessed his efforts. Likewise, when it comes to relationships, God isn’t going to tell you the future. Rather, as you make wise decisions, he will usually reveal his will through the decisions you make in the present.

2. If You Start to See for Yourself the Concerns Your Trusted Friends and Family Had, God Is Protecting You from a Bad Relationship

Men often struggle find the right balance between making decisions for themselves and allowing other people to influence their lives. Some men listen to no one and do whatever they feel is best. Other men listen to everyone and only do what they are told.

As a man of God, you must see yourself as the ultimate decision maker for your own life (besides God of course), but you must also be humble enough to listen to the wise counsel of trusted friends and family who love you. Proverbs 12:15, “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.”

You can apply this principle to relationships not by following the advice of others even if you disagree but rather listening to the advice of others and then taking an honest look at the situation to see if what others are saying is true or not.

When you begin to see evidence of what others have been warning you about, this means God is warning you through these beloved friends and family.

3. If This Woman Leads You on and Then Starts Dating Someone Else, God Is Protecting You from a Bad Relationship

Perhaps you and this woman were texting every day and it seemed like she really liked you. Then all of a sudden, she starts ignoring you and you find out she’s dating someone now.

Don’t get bitter if a woman leads you on. Rather, thank God this came out sooner rather than later. Yes, it will hurt if a woman led you on but then chose someone else. But it would have hurt much more if you got into a relationship with this woman and then she kept living a double life behind your back.

By revealing her true loyalty at this point, God spared you the pain of being with an unfaithful woman who has a wondering eye whenever another man gives her attention. Just as God was faithful to show you that this woman was not right for you, he will also be faithful to show you the right woman for you.

Proverbs 19:14, “House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.”

4. If the Relationship Doesn’t Happen No Matter How Hard You Pray and No Matter What You Try, God Is Protecting You from a Bad Relationship

Why won’t God answer your prayers about this woman? Why won’t this woman give you a chance? Even if you say all the right words and do all the right things, if the relationship still doesn’t materialize, this is a good sign God is protecting you from a bad relationship.

And to be clear, a bad relationship doesn’t mean that the people involved are always doing something bad or immoral. Sometimes it’s just “a bad relationship” because the two are not a great fit together.

Matthew 7:11 states, “If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!” God loves us too much to give us things that he knows is not his best for us. If God doesn’t bless the connection, just know God is protecting you from something that wouldn’t be good for you.

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