Do you want to know how God will reveal “the love of your life” to you? Let’s talk about it.
Here are 4 things God will do to help you know when you’ve really met the love of your life.
1. This Person Will Help You Love God More, Not Less
By the term “the love of your life,” I’m talking about that one person who will be different to you than everyone else. They won’t be perfect, they won’t be your fantasy, but they will be someone who you end up loving more than anyone else and they will love you more than anyone else.
Of course as Christians, however, God is the ultimate love of our lives, he loves us more than anyone can love us, and our love for him must always be higher than our love for others (Luke 14:26). But let’s not forget God is the one who made love between the man and woman, and this love brings glory to the Lord when used properly. That’s the context for this discussion, not the infatuation and worldly love so prevalent today.
So when God reveals the love of your life, this person will not be in competition to your love for God. Rather, the Lord will enhance your love for him through your love for this person. A love that competes with God, pulls you away from his love, or causes you to love God less is not the type of love the Lord wants for you.
When you meet the love of your life from God, you two will be obeying Hebrews 10:24, “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works . . . .”
2. God Will Set This Person Apart in Your Heart from Other People
There’s supposed to be different types of love in our heart that we give to different people. We are told to love our enemies (Matthew 5:44) but we are also told to love the people in our church (Romans 12:10). While love always has some of the same components to it (1 Corinthians 13), obviously you will still treat an enemy different than a brother or sister in Christ (Galatians 6:10). For example, you may serve and help an enemy as a way of being a witness for Jesus, but you aren’t going to confide in them or share parts of your heart with them in love (Proverbs 4:23).
This same principle is played out in romantic love too. You can have general romantic feelings for many people throughout the course of your life. You may even have some form of love for an ex, meaning you still wish them well and love them with Christian affection. But when God reveals “the love of your life,” this person will occupy a separate part of your heart that belongs just to them.
This is one of the reasons God wants people to only have sex in marriage, so they have a physical expression of the heart love they have for their spouse. The sex between the husband and wife is supposed to be exclusive, just between them, because it represents the special love they have for each other that is just between them in their hearts too.
As Hebrews 13:4 states, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”
3. When God Reveals The Love of Your Life to You, Your Love Will Overflow and Be a Blessing to Others
Worldly love just focuses on self, “How can I make myself happy through “loving” this person?” But godly, biblical love is more expansive. It always multiplies and overflows, benefitting more than just the couple.
This can be seen through how God made a husband and wife to reflect Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:21-33). When God made Adam and Eve as husband and wife, he endowed them with the power to create life through their love for each other, “Be fruitful and multiply . . .” (Genesis 1:28). God could have just kept creating men from the dust of the earth and women from the ribs of men. But instead, he made one man and one woman and gave them the ability to multiply.
Now, it’s here we also need to remember that Ephesians 5:21-33 clearly states that right from the beginning, God made marriage to reflect the love between Christ and his church. When Jesus formed his church, he came to earth and did it himself (like God made Adam and Eve himself). Jesus himself was the first evangelist to share the gospel and form Christians, his church. But now, Jesus is in heaven and he partners with his church to help the dead come to life (like how God uses men and women to populate the earth). Instead of manifesting himself to everyone like he did to the apostles, now the apostles have been a witness to the truths about Jesus. And once someone has been witnessed to, they are to then become a witness to others.
So, just as God does not literally form each man from the dust of the earth and each woman from the rib of a man but instead uses other humans to create new humans, so too does God now use other Christians to help create new Christians.
Just as the love between a husband and wife is supposed to overflow and create children, so too should the love between Christ (our husband) and his church (his bride) overflow to create new children in God’s family as well. A church that does not reach the lost is a dead church, because the love between the husband (Christ) and his wife (the church) should create new life (Genesis 1:28, Matthew 28:19-20).
I say all this to lay out the principle that godly love always creates life. When you meet the love of your life, this love will not just benefit you two. And I’m not just saying you two will have babies together and raise a family. Sometimes a husband and wife don’t get that blessing. But godly love always spreads and multiplies to bless other people.
So in some shape or fashion, when you meet the love of your life, other people will be blessed by this love too besides just the two of you.
4. When You Have Found the Love of Your Life, the World Around You Will Know It Too
Many people have complained that a marriage ceremony is not a biblical necessity for a marriage to take place. While it’s certainly true that many of the cultural expressions in marriage ceremonies are not required for marriage to take place, I do think it is a biblical requirement for a couple to make a public declaration to the community that they are married (Genesis 2:23-24).
A secret marriage is not a biblical marriage. True love is always seen by the world around them. If marriage, the highest expression of love between a man and woman, is supposed to reflect Christ and the church, we should remember what Jesus said about the Christian’s need to be public about their love for him, “So everyone who acknowledges me before men, I also will acknowledge before my Father who is in heaven, but whoever denies me before men, I also will deny before my Father who is in heaven” (Matthew 10:32-33).
You can say you love God, but the Bible says that our words are meaningless unless there is visible evidence of our love through our obedience to God (James 2:17, 1 John 2:4). Likewise, when you get into a relationship with the love of your life, the love you have for each other will be visibly obvious to everyone not only through your public declaration of love for each other, but through your loving actions that are evidence for the love you have.