Proverbs 31:28-29
If you say these phrases to a woman you barely know, this isn’t going to work. These are not pickup lines.
Rather, these are things a woman needs to hear from a man before she will feel safe and secure to really fall in love with him.
Therefore, here are 5 biblical phrases that make a woman feel loved by a man.
1. “My Life Is Better with You in It”
- Genesis 2:18, “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.’”
- Proverbs 31:11-12, “The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.”
- Song of Solomon 4:10, “How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much better is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!”
Everyone wants to be needed. Of course, as a man, I’m not saying you should need a woman in an idolatrous or ultimate way. But you also can’t be so guarded that you send the message, “I would be completely unfazed if you left me.”
Don’t be needy. Don’t be overly dependent. God must be your God. Your strength can’t be derived from her. But to really love her and to make her feel loved, you have to truly allow her to be so valuable to you that you know your life is better with her than without her.
2. “To Me, You Are the Most Beautiful Woman”
- Song of Solomon 4:7, “You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.”
- Song of Solomon 2:2, “As a lily among brambles, so is my love among the young women.”
- Proverbs 31:28-29, “. . . [her husband] praises her: ‘Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.’”
To love a woman, it’s not about literally winning the most physically beautiful woman by worldly standards. Rather, it’s about finding the woman God has for you, who will be to you the most beautiful woman on the planet.
If you say to her, “You’re the most beautiful woman,” she will roll her eyes at you and think your lame. However, if you say, “I think you are the most beautiful woman,” in her heart she will feel loved. In embarrassment or shyness, she might still roll her eyes; but deep down she will feel loved when she knows your eyes are for her and for no other woman.
3. “You Make Me a Better Man”
- 1 Peter 3:1-2, “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.”
- Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
- Proverbs 13:20, “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”
She doesn’t want to be a trophy wife that you just show off to your friends. She wants to make an impact in this world just like you do. So she needs to know that she brings value to the family unit.
When the Lord gives you a godly woman, it helps you continue to grow as a godly man. When she sees how much you value her influence in your life, this will make her feel loved.
4. “I’m Attracted to You”
- Song of Solomon 7:7-9, “Your stature is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters. I say I will climb the palm tree and lay hold of its fruit. Oh may your breasts be like clusters of the vine, and the scent of your breath like apples, and your mouth like the best wine.”
- Proverbs 5:18-19, “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.”
Sex is not love. However, God made sex to be a physical expression of love so a husband and wife can connect in a deep, physical way. Again, it’s not about finding the woman that you are most physically attracted to by outward appearance. Rather, when you find the woman God has for you, you will love her more than any other woman, which will then translate into a greater sexual attraction for her than for any other woman.
5. “I Love You. Will You Marry Me?”
- Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her . . . .”
- Genesis 2:24-25, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.”
- Song of Solomon 3:11, “Go out, O daughters of Zion, and look upon King Solomon, with the crown with which his mother crowned him on the day of his wedding, on the day of the gladness of his heart.”
Personally, I don’t believe a man should say he loves a woman until he also proposes to her. I think saying you “I love you” should be the same thing as saying, “I want to marry you.”
Love without commitment in the Bible is a foreign concept (1 Corinthians 13:7-8, Hebrews 13:5).
The ultimate way to make a woman feel loved is with words and action. Tell her you love her (words) and then propose to her so you can get married (action).
