Luke 6:45
Here are 4 things that will happen when God is leading you towards a good relationship
1. Your Heart Will Be in a Good Place When God Is Leading You Into a Good Relationship
In our pain, when we have an ache in our hearts, we think to ourselves, “If God would just give me the right person to marry, I know I would feel better. I would be happy.”
This is untrue. A good relationship will not heal your heart. Rather, a healed heart will help give you a good relationship. Relationships are the fruit, not the root, of a healthy heart. If your heart is unhealthy, hurting, or unfulfilled in the Lord, it’s impossible for your heart to help produce a good relationship:
- Matthew 15:19, “For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.”
- Luke 6:45, “The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”
Before God can produce a good relationship in your life, he will help your heart get to a good place with him.
2. This Other Person’s Heart Will Also Be in a Good Place When God Is Leading You Into a Good Relationship
Everything we just said about your heart will also be true of the other person’s heart as well. Don’t think you can go on “a rescue mission” type of relationship and have a good relationship with this person.
A lot of people say, “My marriage is my ministry.” While I understand what they mean, I don’t think this is the most accurate way to describe a healthy marriage. A ministry is when you serve the other person and don’t need anything in return. You can minister to the lost and people living in sin because you are just giving to them and not taking. But a healthy relationship is different. You are not just supposed to be giving. You are also supposed to be receiving. Scripture, however, makes it clear that Christians are not supposed to receive what the world and lost people are offering:
- James 4:4, “You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.”
- 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.’”
- 2 Corinthians 6:15-16, “Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God….”
You can serve anyone, but you are not supposed to be in a give-and-take relationship with someone who is not in a healthy place. Jesus served the lost, but he only entrusted himself to his disciples, “But Jesus on his part did not entrust himself to them, because he knew all people and needed no one to bear witness about man, for he himself knew what was in man” (John 2:24-25).
When God puts you in a good relationship, this person’s heart will also be in a good place with the Lord.
3. You Will Be Detached from Bad Relationships and Closed to Old Roads that Could Lead to a Bad Relationship
A healthy relationship that leads to a godly marriage will be a symbolic representation of God and his church. When it comes to our relationship with the Lord, Jesus said:
On that day, let the one who is on the housetop, with his goods in the house, not come down to take them away, and likewise let the one who is in the field not turn back. Remember Lot’s wife. Whoever seeks to preserve his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life will keep it.” (Luke 17:31-33)
If you want a healthy relationship with God, you can’t look back with longing eyes at your past. Likewise, if you want a good relationship with a man or woman, you can’t be looking back at someone in your past. You have to be detached from old relationships if you want God to give you a healthy attachment in a new relationship.
If a road back to an old relationship or an old way of life is appealing to you, you will miss the road leading you to the good relationship God wants for you right now.
4. You Will Be Content in Christ No Matter What Happens Next When God Is Preparing to Lead You Into a Good Relationship
Ultimately, the best and most stable human relationships are compromised of a man and woman who are totally content in Christ first and foremost (1 Peter 3:1-7).
When you are not filled with the love of God, you tend to idolize other lovers (Deuteronomy 8:11-14) God wants a good relationship for you if he’s given you the gift of marriage, but even this good gift can become an idol.
When God is leading you into a good relationship, your heart will be content in Christ before he gives you this relationship.
Do you need help letting go of someone in your past? Here’s a related article: 4 Biblical Ways to Let Someone Go.