1 Corinthians 7:39
What if God has already answered your prayer request about a certain man but you missed it?
Here are 5 signs that usually mean God has already said “Yes” to you about a man but you just haven’t noticed yet.
And as a quick point of clarification, in many of my articles, the “signs” can be standalone signs. In this article, however, to really know if God is saying “yes” about a man, you should be able to see most of the signs rather than just one or two individually.
1. If You Like This Man and He’s a Real Christian, God Is Saying Yes
In my opinion, the number one reason people get confused about relationships is because they overcomplicate the process of hearing God speak. We imagine God will tell us his will through a dream, through an unexpected encounter, or through a dramatic experience that gives us a long story to tell others.
Usually, however, God’s answer is right in front of us but it’s so simple we overlook it. When it comes to the biblical requirements for romance, it’s really not that complicated. Is this man a Christian? Do you like this man? If you can answer “yes” to both of those questions, you have a strong sign that God is giving you the green light about this man.
As 1 Corinthians 7:39 explains, “. . . she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.”
2. If This Man Likes You and You Are Prepared to Honor the Lord, God Is Saying Yes
It always wise to start with your own heart when it comes to relationship questions. If you know you don’t want to be with a certain man, that’s the strongest piece of evidence that God does not want you with that man. Romance is a biblical option for those who want it and not a biblical command for all Christians. Thus, God will reveal his will for you by giving you a desire for the man he wants you with.
With that said, the next step is to then look at the heart of this other person. If the romantic feelings are not mutual, then this is not the man God has for you. However, if he’s a Christian, your Christian, and you both like each other, it is highly likely God is giving you both a yes about being together.
Remember, God is the one who made marriage (Genesis 2:18). He’s not the one standing in the way of you and this man being together. If the romantic feelings are mutual and you both are prepared to be biblical together, this pleases the Lord.
3. If Your Prayers for Confirmation Have Already Been Answered But You Keep Asking for More Confirmation, God Is Saying Yes
There comes a point where your repeated request for confirmation is actually a sign that you lack faith. While it’s good to seek God’s guidance, it’s wrong to expect God to reveal your entire future to you before you take any steps forward.
Usually, God tells you the next step to take after you’ve done what he has already told you to do. Once you take that step, then he reveals another step. And so on. 2 Corinthians 5:7, “for we walk by faith, not by sight.”
Maybe you are asking God about marrying this man but you haven’t even gone on one date with this man yet. If God has said, “Yes, it’s okay to go on a date with him,” you have to do that first before God will tell you what to do next. If the date goes really bad and you don’t like the man, the Lord will probably tell you to let it go. If you are unsure after this date, perhaps God tells you to give him another chance. If the date went great, God is probably telling you to go on another date.
But if you never take these initial steps and you just keep asking about the distant future, you will be missing the “yes” God has already given you about things to do in the present.
4. If This Man Is Pursuing You But You Are Waiting for Some Reason to Accept His Pursuing, God Is Saying Yes
Sometimes a relationship stalls because the woman forgets she needs to respond positively once the man does pursue. Never expect a man to keep pursuing you if you are not adding anything to the equation.
Yes, he should initiate and risk rejection first. However, you also need to risk something and put yourself out there too. If he’s pursuing you but you are waiting to give him a chance for some reason, you might miss the opportunity God wants you to take advantage of.
When God was giving Rebekah an invitation to be with Isaac, Genesis 24:58 states, “And they called Rebekah and said to her, ‘Will you go with this man?’ She said, ‘I will go.’” The man pursued but she also had a clear choice to make.
5. If You Both Want to Serve the Lord Together, God Is Saying Yes
As Christians, when we want relationship advice, we tend to gravitate towards those verses about husbands, wives, and romance. However, whatever God has called you to do as a Christian in general, this must help you make decisions about relationships.
Your relationship with your future husband will not be a separate part of your life. Everything, including our romantic relationships, must be centered on glorifying God (1 Corinthians 10:31).
Thus, if you can’t serve the Lord with this person, God doesn’t want you with this person. When you and this man want to serve the Lord together, this is a great sign God is saying yes to this relationship.
