5 Things Your Future Husband Would Ask You to Pray for Him

As a Christian single woman who wants to be married, you would do anything to help your future husband. But how can you be a support to the man God has for you if you have never met him before?

Prayer.

Interceding for others actually works (2 Corinthians 1:11, Ephesians 6:18-19, Romans 15:30-31). It’s powerful! And your future husband needs your intercession. One day, when you finally meet him, and you begin to realize you two will be married, you can then tell him how you have been praying for him before you even met him.

But what does he need you to be praying for him? If you could talk to your future husband now to find out what prayer requests he had, I believe he would ask you to pray these 5 things.

For each point, I will also give you a few Scriptures you can pray over your future husband, along with a short sample prayer you can follow if you want.

He Would Ask You to Pray that God Would Protect Him from Women Who Would Not Be Good for Him

Your future husband doesn’t want to be with any woman other than with you. However, just as you will have to navigate the minefields of modern dating, seeking to avoid men with bad intentions for you, so too will he need to be on guard against women who want to distract and destroy him.

Scriptures to Guide Your Prayers:

Psalm 91:9-10, “Because you have made the Lord your dwelling place—the Most High, who is my refuge—no evil shall be allowed to befall you, no plague come near your tent.”
Job 1:10, “Have you not put a hedge around him and his house and all that he has, on every side? You have blessed the work of his hands, and his possessions have increased in the land.”

Prayer:

“Father God, I lift up my future husband to you. I pray that you would place a hedge of protection around him. I ask that he would make you his dwelling place, that you might be his refuge, and that no evil shall befall him. Specifically, Lord, I ask that you would protect him against evil women who would want to do him harm, tempt him into sin, and distract him from your calling on his life.”

He Would Ask You to Pray that He Would Have the Strength to Honor the Lord with His Sexuality

Godly men want to honor the Lord with their sexuality, but it’s also still a challenge. They hate the fact that they struggle in this area. They wish they could be perfect, but sometimes, because they have fallen before, they can begin to despair. They might get tempted to give up repenting.

Therefore, your future husband would benefit greatly if you were praying for him in this area.

Scriptures to Guide Your Prayers:

Psalm 51:10 (NIV), “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”
Hebrews 13:4, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”
Job 31:1, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.”
Psalm 101:3 (NIV), “I will not look with approval on anything that is vile.”

Prayer:

“Dear Lord, I lift up my future husband to you. Please help him to honor you with his sexuality. Give him a strong conviction from your Holy Spirit to hate sexual sin. Help him to keep our marriage bed holy in his singleness by resisting all forms of sexual temptation. When he falls, help him repent quickly, identify what went wrong, and grow so he does not get stuck in that sin. Give him a pure heart and a steadfast spirit. Help him to make a covenant with his eyes, and to not look on anything that is displeasing to you and harmful to him. Please prepare us both so we can have a blessed marriage bed together one day.”

He Would Ask You to Pray for His Ability to Provide and Protect

A godly man knows that it is his biblical role to provide for and protect his future wife and children. However, in his singleness, he can often grow anxious about his ability to do so. Sometimes, this fear grows so large that a man intentionally avoids relationships because he senses he would not be a good provider and protector.

Therefore, your future husband would greatly benefit from your prayer support in this area. He has what it takes to succeed in this area because he is God’s son, and the Holy Spirit will help him, but he also needs to believe in these facts within his own heart so they can take root in his life.

Scriptures to Guide Your Prayers:

Ephesians 5:25-30, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.”
Philippians 4:11-13, “Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned, in whatever situation I am, to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”

Prayer:

“Lord, I pray that my future husband would have a good relationship with money. I pray that he would not love money, but that he would see it as a tool from you to be used for your good purposes. May he learn how to make a good living in an honest way, that he might be the provider I know he wants to be for our future children and me. Also, I pray that he would know how to protect our future family and me. Give him experiences that would develop him into the protector and provider you want him to be. Teach him to be content with what you provide, knowing that you will always provide a way forward when he relies on you.

He Would Ask You to Pray for the Wisdom and Courage to Pursue You Properly

A Christian man knows he is called to pursue the woman God has for him. However, this can be very confusing for him. He doesn’t know the how, when, or what of pursuit without first being taught. There are countless bad sources of information out there on how to pursue women. He needs to learn from good teachers. He also needs the courage to overcome the sinful passivity all men are tempted to give in to sometimes.

Scriptures to Guide Your Prayers:

Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
John 15:5, “I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.”
Matthew 7:15, “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves.”

Prayer

“Dear God, I pray that you would surround my future husband with godly counsel. Help him to reject worldly advice. Help him to test every spirit against your perfect Scriptures. When the right time comes, I pray that he would be prepared to pursue me in a clear and holy way. Give him the wisdom on how to pursue me in the ways that I need to be pursued. And give me the wisdom to know how to invite his pursuit in the ways that he will need to be invited. I pray that you would bless our beginning. I pray that you would write our love story.”

He Would Ask You to Pray that the Lord Would Give Him the Eyes to See You

Just as you want clarity about who the Lord is calling you to marry one day, so too does your future husband crave this clarity. However, since the man is the pursuer, he has the added responsibility of making the first move more often than not. He doesn’t want to make a mistake by pursuing the wrong woman or by not pursuing the right woman.

Scriptures to Guide Your Prayers:

Psalm 119:18 (NIV), “Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law.”
Luke 14:35, “He who has ears to hear, let him hear.”
Proverbs 19:14, “House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.”

Prayer:

“Father, I ask that you would give my future husband the eyes to see me. I pray that he would notice me, be drawn to me, and have the internal peace that he should pursue me when the time is right. Open his eyes to what your word says about finding a wife, and help me exhibit those biblical qualities so he sees I align with what you tell him to look for in a wife. Give him ears to hear your leading. Help him to sense when you are giving me to him as his future wife. Help us to see each other and know your will for us in your good timing.”

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