5 Things You Will NOT See When a Woman Was Sent to You By God

How will you really know when a woman was sent to you by God? After all, plenty of guys thought a woman was from the Lord, only to find out she was a terrible match for him. Also, as we all know, sometimes we can trick ourselves into hearing what we want to hear.

Previously, I wrote an article called 5 Things You Will See When a Woman Was Sent to You By God Today, however, we will discuss 5 things you should not see when a woman is truly sent by God. And all of these points will come from Genesis 24, which contains the story of Isaac and Rebekah.

1. When a Woman Was Sent By God, You Will Not See a Passive Man Doing Nothing to Find Her

When you hear the words “a woman sent by God,” you may imagine a man just sitting and waiting. However, this is never the pattern for God’s men. Even with Adam, before God put him to sleep and sent Eve, he was first searching for a partner among the animals, “but for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:20).

Likewise, Genesis 24 starts with men actively searching for Isaac’s wife. In this specific case, Abraham sent a servant (Genesis 24:1-4). But the principle for us is that Rebekah did not magically show up at Isaac’s tent. God blessed their efforts to find her.

So yes, God must send you the right woman. But don’t expect the right woman to be marked by doing everything for you. You will still need to pursue her. As Proverbs 16:3 states, “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” For God to bless you, you still need to work. That work, however, must be committed to the Lord.

2. When a Woman Was Sent to You By God, You Will Not Get to Avoid Spending Energy in Prayer to Discern God’s Will for You Both

When you hear that God might send you a woman one day, you might assume this will be marked by total clarity the instant you meet her. That could happen. However, that is not what normally happens. God doesn’t normally tell you the whole future before you even take one step in the present. Normally, God will lead you step by step as you continue to depend on him to make straight your path (Proverbs 3:5-6).

Notice how the servant operated as he sought to locate Isaac’s future wife. He started his journey with prayer, “O Lord, God of my master Abraham, please grant me success today and show steadfast love to my master Abraham,” (Genesis 24:12). As the events began to unfold, he kept confirming that Rebekah was the right woman (Genesis 24:49).

Likewise, when a woman was sent to you by God, don’t expect there to be a total absence of all confusion. While God will not cause your confusion, he will also not instantly erase it either. He wants you to walk by faith with him. That doesn’t mean you walk with blind faith. Rather, it means that as you walk into the unknown with God, he will give you more and more evidence that this woman is truly the one for you.

Thus, expect the road to your future wife to be marked by an ongoing, prayerful process of discernment.

3. When a Woman Was Sent to You By God, You Will Not See a Habit of Selfish or Ungodly Character in Her

We are all sinful, so I’m not saying that you should expect this person to be perfectly selfless. Rather, if she is truly a godly woman from the Lord, the overall thrust of her life will be one of self-sacrifice and generosity, particularly as she interacts with the man God wants her to marry one day.

The worldly women who are following Satan, however, will be marked by entitlement, pride, and a desire to be served more than they want to serve. While you should be a man who serves the woman God has for him, she should also be just as eager to serve you.

Notice that the servant’s test was one that would highlight Rebekah’s selfless character. In Genesis 24:14, the servant asked the Lord:

Let the young woman to whom I shall say, ‘Please let down your jar that I may drink,’ and who shall say, ‘Drink, and I will water your camels’—let her be the one whom you have appointed for your servant Isaac. By this, I shall know that you have shown steadfast love to my master.”

It would be kind of a woman to give this man water. But only a truly selfless woman would go beyond his request and offer to water his camels too.

Likewise, when a woman is truly sent to you by God, there will not be a routine of selfish behavior. Rather, there will be ongoing evidence that she is prepared to serve the Lord in the role of a wife.

4. When a Woman Was Sent to You By God, You Will NOT See Godly People Opposing What God Is Doing

This servant was clearly a godly man. Thus, when he found the right woman for Isaac, he didn’t take the credit. Rather, he gave the glory to God. Genesis 24:26-27, “The man bowed his head and worshiped the Lord and said, ‘Blessed be the Lord, the God of my master Abraham, who has not forsaken his steadfast love and his faithfulness toward my master. As for me, the Lord has led me in the way to the house of my master’s kinsmen.”

Not only did the servant give glory to God, but so did the other characters. Genesis 24:50-51 states, “Then Laban and Bethuel answered and said, ‘The thing has come from the Lord; we cannot speak to you bad or good. Behold, Rebekah is before you; take her and go, and let her be the wife of your master’s son, as the Lord has spoken.”

Likewise, when God sends a woman to you, you won’t be the only person who recognizes her. Other people will be blessed by this relationship, too. And other people who love you both will be able to confirm that this is a biblical match.

Thus, if all the godly people in your life are concerned and warning you both, this is not a good sign. Rather, when a woman was sent by God, you will not see a lot of concerned faces looking back at you.

5. When a Woman Was Sent to You By God, You Will NOT See Reluctance from Her to Follow You

In the end, though God has chosen Rebekah for Isaac (Genesis 24:14), this passage also highlights how Rebekah freely chose to be Isaac’s wife with her own free will. When she was asked whether she was willing to leave and go with the servant, she gave a simple answer: “I will go.” (Genesis 24:58)

Likewise, when God is bringing two people together, there is often a growing sense of peaceful willingness, not constant resistance or manipulation.

That doesn’t mean relationships are always easy. But it does mean you won’t see:

• endless games
• constant avoidance
• manipulative behavior
• unwillingness to move forward, even though the time is clearly right.

Instead, like Rebekah, you will see a woman who is open to following you because that is where God is leading her.

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