Mark Ballenger 
Maybe you and someone were building a great friendship that seemed to be headed towards dating, but then this person started dating someone else. Or maybe you two did start dating and things were going great the first six months, but then you started fighting about silly things and broke up. Or maybe you two were even engaged only to have the whole thing called off at the last minute.
As a Christian man, you probably know that it’s your job to pursue the woman you are romantically interested in. Sadly, however, that’s the extent of what most Christian men are taught about dating – that they should pursue the woman.
“I thought God hates pride. So why is this prideful person flourishing?” “It doesn’t seem like my humility is helping me in my career. People who are exalting themselves seem to be getting all the promotions.” “Why do these rude, egotistical people seem to all be in relationships while I’m still single?”
Have you ever wondered why you can’t let someone go in your heart even though you know in your mind that this person is not good for you? Do you keep letting yourself get misused by an unstable person because you feel badly for them? Or do you feel obligated to help someone even though they constantly take you for granted? If so, you may be experiencing a trauma bond.
The only true way to know if you’ve met the right person at the wrong time is to wait and see. If you never marry this person, this was not the person God has for you.
Do you have a desire for someone that just isn’t going away? But do you also sense this desire is not going to be fulfilled? Are you holding onto a relationship that God doesn’t want for you?
Here are 10 possible reasons for why God may be keeping you single even though you wish you could be in a relationship with a good woman.
As a man, never say things like “All women are liars” or “Women can’t be trusted.” Some women are liars and some women can’t be trusted; but anytime we lump a large group into a narrow definition that is based upon our personal experiences with just a few people from that group, we are lying to ourselves.
There are things every human needs regardless of age or gender. Whether you are a child or you have been married for 60 years, you need love, respect, and knowledge of the gospel of Jesus Christ.
What influences a man to pursue one woman over all the other choices?