3 Clues God Is Telling You to Reveal Your Feelings for Someone

How will you know when you should let someone know that you like them? Here are 3 clues God may be leading you to reveal your feelings about someone that you like.

1. If It’s Your Turn in the Dance Before Dating to Make a Move, This Is Often a Sign God Is Telling You to Reveal Your Feelings

I’m not going to do a full teaching about the different ways men and women should show interest before dating since I’ve talked about that before. For more on that topic, you can read my article, How a Christian Man Shows Interest Vs. How a Christian Woman Shows Interest.

But in this article, I simply want to highlight that there is a dance before dating that men and women are both involved in but in which they are taking different roles. Generally speaking, a man should be pursuing and initiating while the woman should be responding and inviting. The reason for this is because they should be seeking to express their readiness to play their roles in marriage one day, and the husband is called to lead and the wife is called to respond (Ephesians 5:21-33).

The point to highlight for our purposes is that there is something each person needs to do to communicate they like the other person. If you are man, you like this woman, you sense she could like you, and you see biblical fruit in her life, then this probably means God wants you to express your interest in her. If you are a woman, you like this man, he’s expressed some interest in you, and you see biblical fruit in his life, this probably means it’s time to also express interest in him if you like him.

Things are generally more complicated for the women in his season of the relationship because they want to show interest but they don’t want to lead or pursue the man. A good general principle is that the woman should at least match the expressed interest the man has offered.  If he’s being a bit guarded but showing some interest through communicating more often than normal and spending time with her, she should respond by also offering more communication and opportunities to spend time together. If he’s openly said he likes her, she should then openly express her feelings too.

For more about how a woman can express interest in a guy, you can read my article called How to Let a Christian Man Know that You Are Interested in Him.

2. If Nothing Is Going to Happen Unless You Do Something, This Could Be an Indication to Reveal Your Feelings

When debating on whether or not we should do or not do something, we generally ask ourselves, “What will happen if I do this?” While that’s a good question to ask, it’s just as important to also ask yourself, “What will happen if I don’t do this?”

Yes, expressing your interest in someone that you like does have risks. You might get rejected. You might lose a friend. You might start dating someone and then get hurt in that romantic relationship. Or it could go great and you two could get married one day.

But have you also thought about what would happen if you don’t express interest? You might live with regret. You might always wonder what could have happened if you weren’t so passive. You might lose this friend anyways once they start dating someone else. You might not get rejected but you will also for sure also never give yourself a chance to be in a relationship with this person. 

If you are still getting to know each other as friends or there are still too many unknowns about this person for you to make a definitive move, then give it more time and gain the information you need in order to decide what to do.

But if you have all the information you need and you are just waiting for something more to happen, oftentimes nothing will happen unless you do something (Proverbs 14:23).

3. God Wants You to Reveal Your Feelings for Someone If the Risk Is Worth the Reward

Sometimes it’s truly not worth it. That’s okay. If you just don’t want to deal with the drama, if you just aren’t willing to express your interest first and prefer to just wait for them to make a move, or if you just can’t come to be so bold – nothing is wrong with that. This just means the reward is not worth the risk to you.

But if you sit down and think about the worst thing that could happen and then you accept that if this bad thing happened you would still be glad you expressed interest in this person, then this is a good sign you should express your interest.

Life is full of risks. The only way to avoid all risk is to never live your life. Walk with God. Whether it goes well or it goes bad, when you are secure in Christ, he will sustain you and bring you through everything that happens to you in life (2 Thessalonians 3:3-5).

Here’s a playlist of videos I’ve made about expressing interest in someone: When and How to Express Interest in Someone (Christian Relationship Advice)