In warfare, it’s key to create a distraction for your enemy so you can attack from the other side unnoticed. Satan may be attacking you and keeping you away from the right person by distracting you with the wrong person.
Here are 3 signs Satan is using a decoy to keep you away from the person God wants you to marry one day.
1. Satan Will Tempt You to Believe Unverified Signs About the Wrong Person as a Way of Keeping You from the Right Person
I remember reading a comment on one of my videos that went something like this, “I prayed to God that I would meet my future husband within the next 10 days. I then met a man within that 10-day period and we really liked each other. But there were a lot of red flags that I ignored because we met within this 10-day window I prayed about. I know now I stayed with him a lot longer than I should have simply because of when we met. Eventually he left me and really hurt me.”
This would be an example of an “unverified sign.” When we ask God to give us signs that are rooted in coincidences like timing, patterns, or intuition, there is no real way to validate if these are really from God. Our minds can interpret random events however we want. That’s why I recommend never asking God to speak to you in these types of way.
Rather, I encourage you to ask God for biblical signs that are mentioned in Scripture. For example, in Galatians 5:22-24 we are given clear signs of a Christian walking in the Spirit. And in Song of Solomon we are given the biblical principle that a man and woman should really want to be with each other. It shouldn’t be one-sided. Therefore, it would be biblical to ask God to reveal your future spouse to you by helping you meet someone who really wants to be with you and you with them and that has visible Christian fruit in their life.
But if you just imagine thunder in the sky at a perfectly timed moment or six green traffic lights in a row or someone’s random words to you on the street are signs from God that this person is the one, this very easily could just be a decoy from Satan to keep you from the right person God wants you with.
(For more on this, you can review my article What Does the Bible Say About Signs?)
2. If You Idolized Someone and Then They Left You Before You Could See Their Flaws, Satan Can Use This as a Decoy to Keep You Away from Your Future Spouse
2 Corinthians 11:14-15 states, “And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no surprise if his servants, also, disguise themselves as servants of righteousness. Their end will correspond to their deeds.”
Idolatry is not only about putting someone above God in your heart. Idolatry is also marked by seeing someone as better than they really are. When you meet someone new, it is especially tempting to imagine how amazing they are because you have not yet had the time to see all their flaws. When you hit it off with someone and fall hard for them quickly, but then they leave you, Satan will try to keep you stuck because all you are left with is this perfect image of someone in your mind that no one else can live up to.
The decoy keeping you from the real person God wants you to be with one day doesn’t even exist. The person you are thinking about who you believe was so perfect is a mirage, an imagined character simply wearing the mask of this person you once knew. But if you would have actually dated this person and gotten to know them, you would have then realized they were not the angel you imagine them to be. No one is perfect. The only people who seem perfect are the ones we idolize.
Break the agreement with the lie that this person was the only one you could ever love. Reject the lie that this person was the perfect one for you. God would not pick someone for you who did not want to be with you.
(For more on this, you can read my article How to Get Over Someone You Never Dated.)
3. Satan Is Using a Decoy to Keep You from the Right Person If You Are Attached to Someone for Sinful Reasons
Satan can’t make us do anything. Rather, Satan tempts us to sin, and through sin he gains a foothold in our lives (Ephesians 4:27). Like a hook in the mouth of a fish is sin in our lives. Satan just appeals to this sinful attachment we have, and he can then make us go where he wants us to go.
If you are attached someone because you’ve formed a sexual bond with them or an unhealthy emotional bond or because you are taking the role of enabler for them, Satan will tempt you to be in a bad relationship with this person as a way of keeping you out of a relationship with the right person.
Did you meet the right person at the wrong time? Here’s an article called 4 Signs Satan Is Tempting You to Chase the Right Person at the Wrong Time.