3 Signs You Are Actually Doing a Really Good Job at Finding The One

Proverbs 21:19

When you really want to be married one day but you are single for longer than you wanted, it’s natural to ask yourself, “What am I doing wrong?”

While there is always room for improvement in every area of our lives, including when it comes to finding the right person to marry, oftentimes we are doing much better than we realize.

So in this article, we will discuss 3 signs that you are actually doing a much better job than you think at finding the person God wants you to marry one day.

And I also wanted to quickly let you know that I just opened enrollment for 2024 at AGW University.

I’m currently offering a bundle of courses at a greatly reduced tuition cost. These courses are biblically based and were created for Christians singles who want to glorify God in marriage one day. You will learn how to prepare your heart, what to look for in a spouse, and what practical steps you need to take to meet the right person God has for you.

And for those of you who enroll before the deadline of February 26^th, I’m also giving you three months of free email coaching with me along with a host of other bonuses.

For more information about the current course bundle, the scholarship, and the bonuses, click here to visit AGW University. 

1. If You Are Remaining Single Even Through You Have Options to Date People You Know Are Not The One for You, You Are Doing a Good Job to Find Your Future Spouse

Perhaps the most common reasons Christians singles remain unmarried for longer than they want is because they end up getting into relationships with people that they don’t marry.

To be clear, I’m not saying you are doing something wrong if you date someone you don’t end up marrying. Sometimes God will lead you to date someone so he can show you they are not the one for you. God also uses relationships that don’t end in marriage to prepare people for the future marriages he will put them in. So dating and then breaking up should not be seen as an automatic failure.

However, it is unwise and counterproductive when a Christian dates someone they know they will never marry. Sometimes we get tempted and say things like, “Well, I’m still young. I just want to have some fun for a little bit. I’ll get serious about finding a Christian spouse when I’m older.” Or we say, “Well, I know I will never marry this person if they remain the way they are. But maybe if I date them, I can help change them.”

Whenever you date someone you know you cannot marry, you are adding months and sometimes years to the process of meeting the person God does want you to marry. Not only are you off the market while you are dating this person, but usually you also have to then go through a lengthy healing process before you are ready to get into a healthy relationship.

Therefore, while it can feel like you are doing something wrong if you are single, that’s not the case! It’s better to be single than in a relationship with the wrong person (Proverbs 21:19). If you are choosing not to date because you know you haven’t yet met someone with the right Christian qualities, this is a great sign you are actually doing much better than you think at finding the one.

2. You Are Doing a Good Job at Finding The One If You Are Living an Active Lifestyle Within a Healthy Christian Community

Online dating can be a great option. God has used this method to bring many Christian couples together. Getting setup on a blind date is not sinful. It has worked for some people. You could even hire a matchmaker. How you meet someone is not as important as who you meet. So long as you both are Christians who want to please Jesus together, the method of becoming a couple doesn’t matter that much.

With that said, for the majority of Christians, the best way to meet the person God wants you to marry is by living an active, meaningful lifestyle within a healthy Christian community. Even if you are not currently dating anyone but you are serving and growing with other Christians, you are on the right path. It’s highly likely you will meet the right person if you keep serving the Lord with other Christians.

Matthew 6:32-33, “For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”

3. You Are Doing a Good Job at Finding The One If You Know You Are Doing (or Not Doing) What God Is Leading You to Do (or Not Do)

I’m a big believer that there is not a one-size-fits-all approach to meeting the person God wants you to marry. Whenever there is a strict set of steps you must take to receive something from God, that process is always clearly explained in the Scriptures.

When it comes to getting married, no such process is outlined in the Bible. Rather, God has given us many relationship principles that he wants each one of us to apply to our unique situations and variables.

Online dating might be a great option for some and a terrible option for you. Being friends for a longtime with someone before dating might be a great option for you but a terrible option for someone else. Some people should use the dating method and other people should use the courting method.

The most important thing is that you are doing what you truly feel like God is leading you to do (Psalm 25:4-5, Proverbs 3:5-6).

This is one of the reasons I created AGW University. While it’s true that God has not given us a rigid blueprint that leads to marriage, it’s also true that it can be more complicated to apply biblical principles to your life rather than following a rigid blueprint. While it might have been easier if God gave us such steps to take to get married, it would not have been better.

God knows best. He has called us to study the Scriptures and prayerfully apply them to our lives. If you would like to learn more about this process and receive specialized training from me, I encourage you to check out AGW University.

For the scholarship, email coaching, and extra bonuses, click here before the February 26^th deadline.