Is it possible to marry the wrong person? From a human point of view, of course it’s possible. In other words, many people will get married, be miserable, and come to feel they should never have married that person in the first place. And from a biblical perspective, there will be some truth to that feeling if they did marry someone that the Bible warned them not to marry.
However, having said all that, when we look at it from God’s point of view instead of our human perspective, it’s also biblically accurate to say that it’s impossible to marry the wrong person. So it really depends on what you mean by “marrying the wrong person.”
Therefore, in this article, I’m going to give you 4 reasons it’s actually impossible to marry the wrong person when you are looking at it from God’s point of view.
I also wanted to quickly let you know that there are only a few hours left to enroll in AGW University. These relationship training courses are not going to give you a spell that makes someone fall in love with you. I’m not offering you magical promises. However, I do really believe the biblical truths in these courses can dramatically change your life and relationships.
If you enroll before 11:59pm tonight, you get lifetime access to all 7 of these relationship courses, 3 months of bonus email coaching with me, lifetime access to the private Facebook group which has over 850 other students in it currently, and you will get the $50 scholarship.
1. You Can Be Dating the Wrong Person. But Once They Are Your Spouse, They Are Who God Wants You With
A simple biblical truth that often gets forgotten in this world of chaos is that marriage and dating are totally different. Since premarital sex, living together before marriage, and fully sharing your heart with someone before your vows is common practice in these modern times, the lines between the marriage relationship and other romantic connections has become blurred.
But God, regardless if we view marriage and dating as different, does see these as different. When you get married, you are making a vow not only to this person but also to God. You are saying that you are going to commit yourself for life to this person, through good times and bad. And whether people’s feelings about their willingness to fulfill this vow change or not, God still validates this vow and holds people to it (Numbers 30:2, Deuteronomy 23:21). As Jesus said in Matthew 19:6, “So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
So it’s absolutely true that you can be dating someone who God does not want you to marry. But once you actually marry that person, you are now married to the person God wants you to be married to.
2. When You Are Obeying God’s Word, He Will Sovereignly Bring About His Personal Will for Your Life Through Your Free Choices
Point 1 was the negative side to this theological question. However, while God’s sovereign power to bring about this will can be frightening at times, it is also meant to be a great comfort to us.
When you study the Scriptures, one reason “God’s will” is a confusing topic at times is because there are different ways this phrase is used. There are at least three different types of “God’s will” in the Bible. There is God’s sovereign will, which he will fulfill by his power regardless of human desire or choice. Then there is God’s prescribed will, which is God’s commandments that he wants us to obey but which we can choose to disobey if we want. And then there is God’s personal will for our lives, which is the morally neutral paths we must make decisions about.
Our choices directly impact if we are in God’s prescribed will for our lives and his personal will for our lives, but only God can bring about his sovereign will. Therefore, we can say that if we are obeying God’s word and seeking to follow him in our lives, in his sovereignty he will bring about what he wants to happen to us.
Thus, if you are obeying the Bible and doing your best to marry the right person, in God’s sovereignty he will not let you marry the wrong person. As Proverbs 16:3 and 9 states, “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established . . . The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”
3. God Will Let You Make Bad Choices to Discipline You in Love Because Your Soul’s Eternal Destination Is More Important that Your Earthly Satisfaction
Anyone can get married. But not all marriages will function in the way that God desired from the beginning. Only when a man and woman are following God’s design for marriage will they be thriving and glorifying him as he originally intended.
Before sin came into the world, marriage was about procreation, enjoyable companionship, and reflecting the love God has for his people. But now that sin is here, the Lord often uses marriage as a means to discipline the rebellious. As Hebrews 12:7 (NIV) states, “Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father?”
Was the prodigal son in his father’s will? Well, it depends on what you mean. In one sense, no, he was not in his father’s will because he was living in a way that his father did not want him to live. But in another sense, it was his father’s will for the son to make his own choices and to be disciplined by those bad choices. Remember, the father did not have to give the son the money. But he gave him the money (Luke 15:12), thus enabling him to go and ruin his own life, hoping this pain would bring him back home one day (Luke 15:24).
Likewise, when we make bad choices and get into marriages that are not pleasing to God, we are in one sense not in God’s will because we are not obeying his commands. But in another sense, we are in his will because he is the one allowing us to make bad choices and he will then use the pain of those bad choices to discipline us and draw us back to himself.
4. Marriage Is Not About Being Happy All the Time. It’s About Showing the World the Gospel, and You Can Do that in Any Marriage
God does want his people to be happy in marriage. This is why he has given us biblical instructions about relationships. If you follow God’s word in singleness and dating, it’s far more likely that you get into a marriage that you enjoy.
However, this world is sinful and marriage always involves two people. So not only can you make bad choices that lead you into an unenjoyable marriage, your future spouse can also make bad choices that make marriage very hard for you both.
But even in situations like these, you are still not married to the wrong person just because you are unhappy. Why? Because your personal happiness is not the ultimate point of marriage. According to Ephesians 5:21-33, reflecting the love relationship between Jesus and his church is the main point of marriage. Does Jesus abandon us when we sin against him? Does Jesus say he married the wrong church when we make our relationship with him difficult and hurtful?
No, once Jesus married us, he committed himself to us forever. Likewise, a marriage is supposed to show this gospel centered love and commitment. Yes, there are biblical reasons for divorce (Matthew 5:32, 1 Corinthians 7:15), but being unhappy is not one of them.
In both good times and bad, God’s mission for your future marriage will not change. Marriage is meant to show the world the love of Jesus Christ for his church.
As I hope you can see, the choices you make before marriage are of the utmost importance. So if you want to get into a healthy, biblical marriage one day, you will really benefit from my relationship training courses.
As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, the deadline to enroll in AGW University will close tonight in just a few hours at 11:59pm.
I certainly cannot guarantee that if you enroll in these relationship training courses that God will send you a spouse right away. This biblical content is not mystical information promising you lavish blessing, and I would never want to mislead anyone by making them think I know a secret marriage formula.
However, what I can promise you is that if you are in a season of life where you are prepared to work hard and truly study what the word of God says about relationships, you will grow immensely by enrolling in AGW University. And while I would never claim to have a secret marriage formula, I have created a wise blueprint that you can follow to increase your chances of meeting the one God might have for you.
I believe so much in the biblical information packed into these courses that I offer a 30-day money back guarantee for anyone not fully satisfied with their experience, no questions asked. Here’s what a few recent students have said about their experiences:
If you enroll before the deadline, which is tonight at 11:59pm, you will get:
Lifetime access to all 7 relationship training courses, which is a total of 73 in-depth biblical classes. Each class has a video and the content is all in writing as well.
You will also get lifetime access to the AGW University private Facebook group. This is where all the students can come together, share their struggles, make new friends, and learn from each other. I started this group as a little side bonus, but it has since blossomed into a thriving, encouraging community of likeminded people. This group has over 850 students in it thus far.
Also, if you enroll before the deadline, I’m giving you three months of bonus email coaching with me for no additional tuition cost. This is where you can share your personal story with me and you and I can create an individualized plan just for you to help you follow the Lord’s leading in your life specifically.
Lastly, for everyone who enrolls before 11:59pm tonight, I am also giving you a $50 scholarship.
Again, this is not a magical formula. Rather, this is an invitation to those of you who desire to go the next level and receive specialized relationship training that stems right from God’s word.
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