Here are 4 common things that will happen when God is preparing someone to fall in love with you.
And on quick side note, I wanted to let you know that I just opened enrollment for AGW University today. AGW University is where I offer in-depth biblical relationship training courses for Christian singles who want to be married one day along with personalized email coaching with me. These courses are for people who enjoy this website but want to go even deeper with me in ways that are not possible on this platform.
I’m currently offering 4 courses that walk you through all the necessary steps you need to take to meet the one God has for you. We start by focusing on ourselves and by the end of the courses we will be focusing on practical strategies to help you interact with the opposite sex in the most effective way possible.
I’m also really excited about my newest course that I’m adding in as a free bonus if you enroll before the deadline of Sunday, August 30th. This bonus course is all about how to most effectively use online dating. I believe this course is especially important nowadays due to all the social distancing requirements that are going on. So if you’re wondering how to date in a post-Covid-19 world, this course will really help.
Lastly, because I know the economy has greatly affected many of you, I’m offering a $50 scholarship to everyone who enrolls before the deadline of August 30th. I’ve never offered tuition at this low a rate and won’t be able to always offer this type of savings. (The scholarship code is: AGW50scholarship)
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1. If God Is Giving Someone Quality Time with You So that You Two Can Grow and Connect with Each Other, This Is Often a Sign the Lord Is Preparing You Two to Fall in Love
I do believe that love at first sight is a myth. I believe infatuation at first sight is possible, but it is not realistic to say you love someone who you don’t know. When you only know superficial information about someone, like how they look and how charming they are during first impressions, your feelings cannot be based on anything other than this superficial information.
For true love to take place, a man and woman must first spend quality time together. I’m not saying those first sparks of excitement and attraction are bad. Oftentimes these feelings of infatuation do grow into something much more. But again, true love has deep roots and is based on truly knowing someone, and that always takes time.
Therefore, if God is giving someone quality time with you, this is one of the first steps needed for true love to grow between you two. Quality time can happen in the context of friendship first or it can happen in the context of a dating relationship. The key is that you and this person are spending time together, talking, connecting, and enjoying each other’s company. If God is allowing this situation to occur in your life, this is a good sign he is laying a foundation for true love to form between you both.
Perhaps the most famous Bible passage on true love is found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. But notice the first descriptive word that is used to describe love, “Love is patient” (1 Corinthians 13:4). True love can’t be rushed. When someone truly loves you, they will be patient and they will let your relationship develop in a healthy way rather than in a rushed and forced way.
2. If God Is Giving Someone the Ability to Accept You for Who You Are Rather Than Trying to Change You Into the Person They Think You Should Be, This Is Often a Sign the Lord Is Preparing Them to Love You
Perhaps one of the most underrated traits of true love is acceptance. I don’t mean that love overlooks sin and pretends there are no issues if there really are issues. I don’t mean that God shows his love by just accepting us in our sin. Rather, God shows his love for us by paying the penalty for our sin and transferring the righteousness of Christ onto us when we put our faith in him.
I believe the popular church slogan of “Come as you are” is helpful but sadly it has morphed into something unbiblical, “Come as you are and leave as you are.” That’s not the promise of the gospel. The gospel invites you to come as you are but it then promises to change you, to transform you into a new creation, and to give you the power to live differently than when you were living in your own strength. But again, I agree people must be first free to come as they are.
Likewise, for a love relationship to truly form between a man and woman, there must be a radical acceptance of who the other person is right now. If someone loves you for who they think you could be or might be one day, they don’t really love you. True love always changes us, but for it to change us we must first accept each other for who we are right now and love one another despite all our bad mixed in with all our good.
If someone cannot accept you for who you are and is always judging you for who you are not, this will never result in true love. Again, they should want the best for you, but for true love to take place they must accept you as you are right now.
You will change together over the years, but only if you both learn to love one another in the midst of imperfection. As 1 Peter 4:8 explains, “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.”
3. If God Is Allowing Someone to Feel Secure that You Are Truly Committed to Them, This Is Often a Sign the Lord Is Preparing Their Heart to Love You
God in his perfection loved us while we were still his enemies. In Romans 5:7-8 (NLT) it states:
Now, most people would not be willing to die for an upright person, though someone might perhaps be willing to die for a person who is especially good. But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.”
This is why God’s love is so amazing, because it is far greater than any love a person could offer us. As Christians, we should seek to love like this while also accepting no human will ever truly love as perfectly as God loves.
If you are looking for someone to love you in the exact same way that God has loved you, loving you before you offer any form of commitment yourself, you will be waiting in vain. Again, I do believe we should try to love like God loves, but it is unreasonable to expect someone to love you perfectly like God loves you without you also showing some investment of love in them.
My point is, someone will not open their heart to you unless they sense that you are also willing to open your heart to them. There must be a mutual, growing commitment between a man and woman for true love to take place. Sure, one of them may need to take a risk first, but eventually each person must feel mutually committed to by the other person. If someone does not feel secure around you and they do not feel like you are willing to commit to them for the long-haul, it is unlikely they will allow themselves to truly love you.
But when they sense you are willing to commit and you are willing to risk as much as they are willing to risk, true love can then grow between you both.
4. If God Is Helping This Person See That Their Life Will Be Enhanced with You in It, This Is a Sign the Lord is Preparing Them to Truly Love You
Many people have contacted me, wondering if they are truly called to marriage because at this point in their life they could see themselves being happy in a life of singleness or in a life of marriage.
As I’ve emphasized many times before, marriage is not a biblical command for all Christians. Rather, it is a biblical option for those Christians who desire to be married (see 1 Corinthians 7 for more on this). One way God often awakens your desire to be married is to bring a specific person into your life that makes you feel life would be better with them rather than without them.
Sometimes you won’t know if God is calling you to a life of singleness or a life of marriage until you actually meet the person God wants you to marry. Once you meet that person God does have for you and you realize your life would be enhanced through this union, it then becomes clear God is calling you to pursue marriage.
So if someone is beginning to see that their ministry, their social life, their emotional wellbeing, and all the other areas of their life will be enhanced by sharing it all with you, this is a good sign God is preparing this person to truly love you.
This is truly a complicated subject and there’s a lot more to say. As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, I’ve created some in-depth relationship training courses for issues just like this. I’m currently offering 4 courses in AGW University.
The first course is called Heart Check: How to Prepare Your Heart for a Godly Relationship. In this course we dive in deep to finding healing to past wounds, rejecting past relationship idols, and learning how to have the proper biblical motives for marriage that God requires to have a blessed marriage one day.
The second course is called Marriage Material: The Qualities to Develop in Yourself and Look for in Another if You Desire a Godly Christian Marriage One Day. In this course we unpack the biblical ingredients needed not to just get married one day but to have a blessed marriage. Healthy marriages don’t just happen by accident. There’re specific qualities that are needed, which is what this course is all about.
The third course is called 10 Steps to Meet The One God Has for You. This courses switches gears from the previous two courses and starts laying out a very practical blueprint you can follow to increase your chances of meeting, dating, and marrying the one God has for you.
And as free bonus for anyone who enrolls before the August 30th deadline, I’m also including access to my newest course called The Effective Online Christian Dating Plan. I believe this course has taken on a new importance due to the recent major changes our society has endured. Dating in a post-covid-19 society is going to look different and I believe online dating is going to become much more important in the months and years to come. In this course I teach you how to properly fill out your profile because it’s really easy to make some big mistakes that will keep people from messaging you. I also share helpful things to message people for the first time and how to actually transition into a real relationship with someone you met online.
Lastly, for those who enroll before August 30th, I’m also offering 3 months of bonus email coaching with me. This is where you can share your person story with me, ask me specific questions that are unique to you, and we can come up with a biblical relationship plan that is best suited for you. Spots for the email coaching are limited due to how much personal time it takes me to coach people, so if you are interested I would enroll sooner rather than later. You will know the spots are filled up when the email coaching offer is no longer listed on the AGW University page.
Also, please note that the $50 scholarship will expire after the August 30th deadline passes by.