Hebrews 4:12
Here are 5 things God will do in your life when he approves of a relationship you are asking him about.
And I wanted to quickly let you know that there are only a few hours left to enroll in AGW University. These relationship training courses are not magic, but I do truly believe they have the potential to greatly transform the trajectory of your life if you put in the time and hard work that is required. If you enroll before 11:59pm tonight, you get lifetimes access to all these relationship courses, free access to my newest course about online dating, 3 months of bonus email coaching with me, lifetime access to the private Facebook group which has over 500 other students in it currently, and the $50 scholarship. Feel free to click here to learn more before the deadline passes by.
1. When God Approves of a Relationship, He Will Give You Peace to Move Forward Rather than a Promise About the Future
Perhaps you clicked on this article hoping to find a way to know exactly what will happen in the future in regards to a specific relationship you have in mind. Perhaps you are just tired of experiencing so many unknowns and confusing seasons when it comes to dating and pursuing marriage. Why won’t God just say, “No, don’t date that person because they are not the person you will marry,” and “Yes, date that person because in 14 months you will marry that person on a sunny afternoon on a Saturday at 3pm with all your friends and family watching ”?
This is not what God usually does. God is not a fortune teller. Rather, God is a faith giver. Yes, he knows and has planned the future, but he does not want you to live with so little faith that you must know everything before it happens or else you won’t budge.
Rather than giving you a promise about the future of a relationship, when God approves of you taking a step forward, he will often give you peace deep in your heart and the faith to trust him even when you don’t know what will happen next.
In John 16:33 Jesus said, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” Jesus didn’t reveal much about the future except that it will be filled with hard times. Rather than promising you a detailed plan of how he will provide for you every minute during the trials ahead, he simply makes a promise of peace.
So when God approves of you continuing forward in a relationship, don’t expect to get a full guarantee of the next fifty years. You may marry that person or you may break up in a month. But either way, when you are following the Lord and remaining in Christ, he has promised peace.
2. When God Approves of a Relationship, He Will Give Both the Man and Woman Confirmation to Continue
One common question I get goes something like this, “God told me I was going to marry this person, but God has not shown this person the same thing. Why would God only reveal this to me and not the other person?”
Well, it is certainly possible God will change this person’s feelings and later on tell them the same thing he already told you. But far more often when this scenario occurs it’s because the first person simply heard what they wanted God to say rather than actually hearing from God truly.
When God truly approves of a relationship going forward, whether it be in dating or continuing on into marriage one day, both the man and the woman will be on the same page and they will both want to proceed forward together. And while if both the man and the woman want to proceed forward, this is still not a guarantee God is approving this relationship as both could be ignoring the warnings God is sending; rather, it is a guarantee God is not approving of this relationship if either the man or woman does not want to proceed forward.
Notice throughout the Song of Solomon the mutual desire for a relationship that is present in both the man and the woman:
He
“Behold, you are beautiful, my love; behold, you are beautiful; your eyes are doves.
She
Behold, you are beautiful, my beloved, truly delightful.” (Song of Solomon 1:15-16)
So when God approves of a relationship and wants you to take the next step forward with someone, both you and this person will be on the same page about progressing forward.
3. When God Approves of a Relationship, He Will Confirm This Relationship Is Biblically Acceptable By Showing You Exact Scriptures Rather than Vague “Christian Statements”
Perhaps some of you subconsciously just tuned out when you read point 3. Why? Because what Christian has not heard about the importance of following what the Bible says? But I would argue most Christians do not truly apply the word of God to their life as much as they think.
It’s not enough to just know “the Bible says this” or “the Bible says that” or “the Bible doesn’t ever say this” or “the Bible doesn’t ever say that.” It’s not enough to start a statement with the phrase, “the Bible says” but then never actually quote the Bible directly. Hebrews 4:12 states, “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” It doesn’t say the pastor’s sermon is living and active. It doesn’t say Mark Ballenger’s YouTube videos are living and active. It says the word of God is living and active.
Christians are exposed to so much information these days that we often end up actually neglecting the true word of God. I’m not diminishing the importance of good Bible teachers. This whole channel is about helping people apply God’s word. But too often in our daily lives we let the actual word of God get crowded out by videos, articles, and podcasts – all of which may be very good, but none of which are as powerful as the very word of God.
So when God actually approves of a relationship in your life, he will teach you through actual Scriptures directly and not just Christian ideas you’ve heard from people. Actual verses right from the passages of Scripture is the surest way to know you are following God’s will for your life.
This is actually what my course, Marriage Material, is all about. While all the courses in my university are about applying God’s word, this course in AGW University literally goes line-by-line through specific Bible passages to show you right from the pages of Scripture what is truly required to have a biblical marriage one day. There’s lots of things Christians add to relationship advice that are not necessary and there are some biblical qualities that are often forgotten about. In this course we unpack what the actual biblical requirements for marriage are according to Scripture.
4. When God Approves of a Relationship, Your Personal Spiritual Growth and Your Outward Fruitfulness Will Expand
While I wish I could give you a formula to always avoid relationships that won’t result in marriage, God has actually ordained many of you to experience dating relationships that will not result in marriage because he must teach you what you must learn through those experiences.
God will never lead us into sin, so I’m not saying that if sin occurs God caused that. But when God does cause things to occur in our lives, he is not motivated by our short-term happiness; rather, he is motivated by our long-term development and maturity. When God is the one leading you forward, it always results in personal growth and spiritual fruitfulness. Notice the kingdom mindset Paul expressed in Philippians 1:12-14. It states:
I want you to know, brothers, that what has happened to me has really served to advance the gospel, so that it has become known throughout the whole imperial guard and to all the rest that my imprisonment is for Christ. And most of the brothers, having become confident in the Lord by my imprisonment, are much more bold to speak the word without fear.”
Paul was put into prison, but instead of seeing this as a punishment from God, he realized this was a privilege from God. God allowed Paul to be imprisoned because he knew it would result in more glory, more lives being saved, and more faith being expressed. God wants you to experience more of his love and he wants you to express more of his love to the people around you, just like Paul did when he was in prisoned. Oftentimes he causes this increase in your life by training you through relationship trials.
For most of you, eventually you will get into a relationship that will result in marriage one day. But either way, when God approves of a relationship progressing forward, whether that be just for a season because the relationship will end one day or whether this relationship will be for the rest of your life because it will result in marriage, Jesus will always be working to increase your spiritual maturity and external fruitfulness.
5. When God Approves of a Relationship, Your Passion for Him Will Increase Rather Than Decrease
Ultimately, the main compass you must live by is your relationship with God. Is this helping or hurting your walk with God? Do you feel more distant from God or do you feel closer to God? Are you following the Spirit’s leading or are you following your own flesh?
As Paul said in Philippians 3:8, “Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ.” Christ was Paul’s concern. Everything in his life was viewed through the prism of Christ’s glory.
Likewise, we too must see everything through the lens of Christ’s glory. Everything must be for Christ, including our relationships. For as Colossians 3:17 also explains, “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” The “everything” in this Bible verse includes your relationships.
When God approves of you being with someone, your passion and relationship with God will be benefited through this relationship experience.
As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, the deadline to enroll in AGW University will close tonight in just a few hours at 11:59pm. I certainly cannot guarantee that if you enroll in AGW University that God will send you a spouse right away. These training courses are not magic and I would never want to mislead anyone by thinking I know a secret marriage formula.
However, what I can promise you is that if you are in a season of life where you are prepared to work hard and truly study what the word of God says about relationships, you will grow immensely by enrolling in AGW University. And while I would never claim to have a secret marriage formula, I have created a wise blueprint that you can follow to increase your chances of meeting the one God might have for you. I believe so much in the biblical information packed into these courses that I offer a 30-day money back guarantee for anyone not fully satisfied with their experience, no questions asked. Here’s what one my students said about her experience:
I feel so blessed by you and the training and instruction that I wouldn’t have otherwise received had I said, “No, not right now God” . . . . I am really going through a serious season of spiritual change and growth right now and I’m so grateful that God loves me enough to rebuke, correct and mold me in His love.” – Nafisah
If you enroll before the deadline, which is tonight at 11:59pm, you will get all four relationship training courses, which is a total of 33 in-depth biblical classes. Each class has a video and the content is all in writing as well. In addition to lifetime access to these four courses designed specifically for Christian singles who want to know a biblical path for singleness and dating, you will also get lifetime access to the AGW University private Facebook group. This is where all the students can come together, share their struggles, make new friends, and learn from each other. This group has over 500 students in it thus far.
Also, if you enroll before the deadline I’m giving you three months of bonus email coaching with me for no additional tuition cost. This is where you can share your personal story with me and you and I can create an individualize plan just for you to help you follow the Lord’s leading in your life specifically.
The $50 scholarship and all the bonuses will expire at 11:59pm tonight.
Again, this is not a magical formula. Rather, this is an invitation to those of you who desire to go the next level and receive specialized relationship training that stems right from God’s word. Click here and you can see all the course content and all the other bonuses I haven’t even mentioned yet. I’ll see you over at AGW University. God bless!