Here are 3 common signs that often mean the Lord is preparing you to be in a committed relationship.
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1. If God Is Teaching You How to Confront Issues and Solve Them Rather Than Run Away When There’s a Problem, This Is a Good Sign the Lord Is Getting You Ready for a Committed Relationship
The key to a healthy, long-term committed relationship is not to find someone that you never have any problems with. The key is to find someone who is willing to work through issues with you. The beauty of godly relationships is not found in God putting two perfect people together. Rather, the beauty is unveiled when God puts two imperfect people together but then gives them his grace to grow and mature together.
Commitment is not just the result of a loving relationship. Rather, commitment creates the type of secure environment for a loving relationship to form. Without commitment, the couple will not feel free to truly confront problems and thus grow together as a couple. But when the man and woman know they are both willing to fight for this relationship rather than run away every time something challenging comes up, this is when true love can blossom.
Of course only God can truly love perfectly. So I am not saying that every couple can always overcome every obstacle. There are times in dating where you will need to accept that this is just not working out and you should part ways. But when a man and woman are being prepared to love each other in marriage together, they will discover the “staying power” of Christ’s love working through them. For as Romans 8:38-39 states:
For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Again, only Jesus himself can truly love us so completely and perfectly. But when God is preparing you for a committed relationship, he will help you aim at expressing this type of committed love.
2. If God Is Teaching You How to Be So Secure in Him So You Can Experience Loss While Not Being Completely Devastated By that Loss, This Is a Good Sign the Lord Is Getting You Ready for a Committed Relationship
As I just eluded to in point 1, you should not always stay committed to someone when you are in a dating relationship. For there often do come points where breakups, pains, and even betrayals will happen. We all know this is a possibility, which is why some Christians struggle to even attempt to enter into a committed relationship because they know the possibility of pain is so real.
Many people avoid commitment because they know if they commit to someone and really open up to them but then it ends badly, they will be completely shattered and devastated. So to avoid this complete destruction of their heart they choose to not open up at all.
But when you are secure in the Lord, you can open up and even get hurt by someone you really trusted and still not be completely crushed. Yes, it will hurt. Yes, you will experience pain if a committed dating relationship does not result in marriage. But when you are secure in Christ and he is truly first and foremost in your heart, nothing needs to completely rock you because God himself is your rock and foundation.
When you are putting all your hope in a man or woman, you will fear that person because of the power you have given them. If you give people the power to make you feel completely loved or completely unloved, you will fear relationships because you will always know there is the possibility of feeling completely unloved.
But when you first know you are completely loved by your Heavenly Father regardless if you are loved by a man or woman, it is impossible for a failed relationship to completely crush you because you were never counting on the relationship to be your everything to begin with. The key to being able to commit even with the risk of getting hurt is to first give your heart completely to God. When you know your ultimate joy and security is rooted in Christ, you will be able to have courage in the face of the possibility of pain.
As Romans 8:32 famously states, “What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?” This does not mean that people are not against us. It does not mean that bad things won’t happen. It means that even when bad things happen, we are more than conquers because God is with us. For as Romans 8:37 proclaims, “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”
3. If God Is Teaching You that Healthy Relationships Are Less About Taking and More About Giving, This Is a Good Sign the Lord Is Preparing You for a Committed Relationship
One of the most common ways relationships are sabotaged is by the motives one has for even wanting a committed relationship. When Adam and Eve first sinned, it caused the human heart to be separated from the presence of God. We were made to always be secure in God’s love, so when we feel that absence of God’s love, we will search for false lovers to fill us.
So when most people dream of being in a committed relationship, they imagine how much this other person will love them. But when everyone is thinking about how the other person will love them, everyone gets disappointed really quick when they actually get into a relationship because everyone is just waiting to be loved and no one is actually doing the loving.
But God’s original design for relationships starts with the reverse intention. The primary joy of a loving, committed relationship does not stem from taking but from the giving. Don’t get me wrong, it is a joy to receive love from another and God created us for that too. But your heart will be filled with more joy when your main aim is to give rather than take. For in Acts 20:35, Paul said:
In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’”
So if God is preparing you to be more focused on giving rather than taking, this is a good sign the Lord is preparing you for a healthy, committed relationship.
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