4 Non-Sexual Things a Godly Man Needs to Fall in Love with You

Do you have to give a man sex for him to love you? If he is a godly man, the answer to that question is no.

But there are certain things a godly man needs before he can fully open his heart to you and pursue you into marriage.

Therefore, here are four nonsexual things a godly man needs to fall in love with you.

1. A Man Will Fall in Love with You When You Bring God’s Favor Into His Life

Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”

For a godly man to fall in love with a woman, he needs to know that this woman is a gift from God. He needs to feel this woman is an expression of God’s favor on his life.

But as a woman, isn’t that out of your control? Isn’t that God’s job. Yes and no. Yes, in that God is the one who has to bring a man and woman together and bless their relationship. However, this is also in your control in some ways because your character will determine if you are a biblical blessing to him or not.

The Bible says a godly woman is a blessing to a man and ungodly woman is a curse (Proverbs 21:19, 1 Peter 3:7). When your life and actions are saturated with biblical fruit, your presence will bring God’s favor into a man’s life (James 1:25). Proverbs 13:20, “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”

Thus, if you want a godly man to fall in love with you, the first thing you must do is be a godly woman.

2. A Godly Man Will Fall in Love with You When He Sees Your Inner Beauty

1 Peter 3:3-4, “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”

I’m not going to tell you that your physical beauty is unimportant to a godly man. Like you, a godly man wants to be physically attracted to his spouse. But also like you, a godly man knows a woman’s inner beauty is more important than his physical attraction to that woman.

A godless man leads with his impulses and worries about her character later. A godly man leads with his heart and mind and makes sure he only pursues a woman he’s attracted to after he has assessed if she has good character or not.

Thus, for a godly man to pursue you into marriage because he loves you, you must let him see your inner beauty. You can be inwardly beautiful without showing that beauty to the man you are interested in. Just because you do have amazing feminine qualities doesn’t mean he is aware of this fact.

So you have to open up. You have to bless him with your words, with your encouragement, and with your walk with God.

3. A Godly Man Will Fall in Love with You When He Knows You Support His Calling

Colossians 3:23-24, “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.”

A man without a purpose is an aimless man who is no good to a woman. For a man to lead a wife and children, that man must be given over to a cause that is greater than himself. Yes, the family unit is a part of that cause that is greater than himself. But more than that, his greatest calling in life will be to advance the kingdom of God.

The way a man will do this is as varied as there are men. But somehow, someway, a godly man will be passionate about serving the Lord somehow. And before he opens his heart to a woman, he will first need confirmation that she can support him in the calling he feels God has placed on his life.

If you’re looking for a man who will put you above his calling, you are not looking for a godly man. You are not looking for a leader. You are not going to attract a biblical man who’s totally in love with Jesus. But when you are in love with Jesus and you encourage him to love Jesus above all things, then that man will know you are the right woman for him.

4. A Godly Man Will Fall in Love with You When He Sees the Potential of Making a Happy Home with You

Proverbs 31:27-29, “She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.’”

Relationships are always a risk. You can do your best to properly assess someone in dating, only to find out in marriage that they are not who you thought they were.

But ideally, dating is meant for a man and woman to get to know each other enough to decide if they want to get married or not. For a godly man to open his heart and fall in love with a woman, he wants to at least see the high potential that he and this woman could form a happy home together.