4 Signs She’s the Woman God Wants You to Marry

Here are 4 signs God is saying, “That’s the woman I want you to marry.”

1. If God Providentially Creates the Bridges that Allow You Two to Connect, This Means She’s Your Future Wife

This isn’t the only sign you will need to know if a woman is your future wife. However, it is the first sign you should look for. Many guys like many women. But when God wants a man to marry a woman, he will not only put a desire in his heart, but he will give him a bridge to that woman’s heart.

A desire without a path to this desire is just a dream. For your desire to be more than a dream, you will need personal effort that is blessed by God’s sovereign ability to open the doors that need to be opened. It’s not just your free will or just God’s sovereign will. You will need to use your free will and God will need to sovereignly bless the work you are putting in. As Scripture states:

• “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” (Proverbs 16:9)
• “Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.” (Psalm 37:5)
• “Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” (Matthew 6:10)

When you meet your future wife, you must work to connect with her, and then God must bless the work you are doing.

2. If You Have the Motivation to Fight Through the Barriers that Will Try to Block Your Pursuit of Her, This Is a Good Sign She’s The One for You

Now, many men will read point 1 and think that pursuing the woman God has for them should be easy. After all, if God is blessing your efforts, shouldn’t it result in pure success? Not necessarily. Throughout the Bible, trials and hardships are not signs that God is displeased with a man. In fact, God often blesses us through the hardships we experience, not by sparing us hardships (Hebrews 12:7-11).

When we apply these ideas to you meeting the woman God wants you to marry, this means there will still be barriers blocking you two from being together. Physical distance, busy schedules, internal fears, miscommunications, past wounds, and many other things will make it hard.

However, if this is truly the woman God has for you, the Lord will also give you the courage and strength to push through whatever is blocking you from pursuing her in a biblical way. For as Philippians 2:13 (NLT) states, “For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.”

Thus, instead of clearing the path of all trials, when God reveals the right woman to you, he will give you the strength to overcome those barriers that need to be overcome. God does not give us tasks equal to our strength. Instead, he will give us the strength we need to accomplish his tasks for us (Philippians 4:11-13).

3. If You Pursue Her in Real Life and She Actually Responds Positively in Real Life, This Is a Good Sign She’s The One for You

A lot of men tell me that God spoke to them about a woman, that this truly is his future wife. That may be true, or it may not be. Sometimes a man thinks he is hearing God but is really just hearing his own desires.

This is why a man must actually pursue this woman in real life to know whether or not she is actually going to be his future wife or not. That’s the only way you will know if this is really going to happen.

Relationships, by definition, require the participation of two people. It doesn’t matter how convinced you are that this is truly the woman God has for you if this woman does not believe you are the man God has for her.

It’s certainly possible that you love her before she comes to love you. But if you pursue her in a few different ways and she rejects you more passionately each and every time, this is a very clear sign she’s not the one for you, no matter how much you feel like she is the one.

Therefore, never assume this is the woman God has for you before getting a sense that she might feel the same way. As a man, you will need to risk rejection and pursue her even if you are not sure what will happen. But it’s foolish, not brave, to hold onto the hope that this is your future wife if there is no mutual interest.

As 1 Peter 5:8 commands, “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”

4. If the Scriptural and the Sexual Requirements Combine, that’s Your Future Wife

If you just want to marry her because you are extremely sexually attracted, even though the relationship lacks the biblical ingredients for a healthy marriage, she is not the one. Likewise, if you two were a very biblical couple, but you are not sexually attracted enough to want to marry her, she is not your future wife.

When God is truly revealing your future wife to you, it will not only be a wise decision, but also a sexually satisfying decision, too. God made sex for a husband and wife in marriage. If you couldn’t have enjoyable sex with her in marriage, she’s not the one (1 Corinthians 7:3-5). Your future wife should be a sexual blessing to you.

As Proverbs 5:18-19 states, “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.”

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