A Woman Sent By God Will NEVER Say THIS to You

By studying and applying Proverbs 31:10-31, we can discover at least 5 things a woman sent by God will never say to you.

And to be clear, I’m not saying a woman sent by God will never make a mistake with her words. But when she does say something unloving or unbiblical, she will ask your forgiveness and she will not make a habit of it.

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1. A Woman Sent By God Will Never Say, “I Deserve More from You”

Worldly women demand. Godly women inspire.

When a woman is walking in her feminine beauty, she will never have to pressure a man into giving her what she wants. She may need to help the man understand her desires. So I’m not saying she will never ask him for things or tell him how he might love her better. But that is a lot different than coming in with an entitled attitude, demanding things from the man as though she deserves his service simply because she is a princess in her own mind.

Notice the beautiful balance of value and usefulness found in the Proverbs 31 woman. Verses 10-11 state, “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.”

So yes, a godly woman should be treasured by a man. But notice that she is also treating her husband well. He lacks nothing good from her because she’s all in for him. She’s behind him, serving him, and loving him well. Likewise, he is eager to do the same for her.

2. A Woman Sent By God Will Never Say, “We Are Co-Leaders”

The description of the Proverbs 31 woman starts with the words “An excellent wife who can find?” (Proverbs 31:10). But what is a wife? That may sound like a silly question, but when you really think about it, you might struggle to find an answer.

Sometimes, to really understand what something is, you have to first understand what it is not. Thus, when you want to know what a wife is, you have to start with the fact that she is not a husband. If a husband and wife were the same thing, there would be no reason to have the differing labels. Both would just be a spouse.

But just as God has made males and females different from one another (Genesis 1:27), so too has God made husbands and wives different from one another. One of the main differences between a husband and a wife relates to leadership. Scripture is very clear that the husband is the head of the wife, which means he is the leader in the marriage relationship (Ephesians 5:23). In the biblical context, this means he is the first to die, he’s the one taking responsibility for the family’s wellbeing, and he is putting himself last for others’ benefit (Mark 10:42-45).

Notice that in Proverbs 31, the woman isn’t a mindless robot following her husband’s every command. She’s making important choices, buying fields, and managing her household (Proverbs 31:12-19). And yet, she’s still “a wife.” She respects her husband’s leadership and loves him in her unique and special role as a wife (Proverbs 31:12, 23).

A woman who doesn’t see any difference between a husband and a wife will ruin your life. Living with her will be impossible if you are a masculine man. The only way you both can lead is if you are a passive man. Never be a passive man.

3. A Woman Sent By God Will Never Say, “I Don’t Want Any Responsibilities”

Some women swing to the complete opposite side of those who want to co-lead. Some women want to do nothing while the man does it all. This comes back to the toxic-princess mindset.

When you read through Proverbs 31, it’s impossible to come away with an ivory tower, airbrushed image of a woman. You will certainly see a picture of a beautiful woman, but not one lounging on couches as servants fan her and feed her grapes. Rather, you get the sense that there are times when there is soil under her fingernails, sweat on her forehead, and a busy calendar marked with important dates.

Granted, she knows how to freshen up and be a lady, but she is clearly a hard worker. She doesn’t run from responsibility. She embraces it. She’s not trying to replace her husband. But she is eager to fulfill her job as a wife. As Proverbs 31:27 (NIV) states, “She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”

So a woman sent by God will never say, “That’s your job, not mine,” when there is a need right in front of her. She doesn’t keep score. She doesn’t measure everything with, “Well, I did this, so now you owe me that.” Instead, she is focused on building something together.

4. A Woman Sent By God Will Never Say Something to Publicly Humiliate You

Worldly women use their words to cut a man down and manipulate him into submission. Godly women use their words to build a man up and empower him to lead as she gladly submits.

Proverbs 14:1 states, “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” Clearly, this isn’t saying she’s a literal builder of a house, digging a foundation and pounding nails into boards. Rather, this is talking about her family, her home. Wise women build up those in their homes. Foolish women tear them down.

Notice how much the family of the Proverbs 31 woman loves her. Proverbs 31:28-29, “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.’”

When a woman cuts you down, particularly in public, she is not the woman God wants you to marry one day.

5. A Woman Sent By God Will Never Say, “I Don’t Care What God Says”

Her ultimate authority is not her feelings, her culture, or even you—it is God.

So she will never justify sin with statements like, “This is just how I am,” or “God understands, so it’s fine.” She takes the holiness of God seriously. She wants to obey him. And when she falls short, she repents, seeking his grace, rather than rationalizing and justifying her wrongs.

At the core of everything, a woman sent by God is a woman who fears the Lord. Proverbs 31:30 makes this crystal clear: “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

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