
“If I’m physically unattractive, does this mean God has called me to singleness?”

We often think that the love of God would lead him to spare us of pain. But in truth, when you study the Scriptures, it becomes clear that God’s love is the reason he often does not spare us of pain. He loves us so much that he will let hard things happen to us if they will result in even more joy for us and more glory to him.

A healthy, satisfying relationship is one where two people happily give and take from each other in a way that increases their desire to give and take more from each other. So the term “getting used” can be misleading in some ways because in a healthy relationship, two people should be offering service to other and be benefitted by the other person.

As a Christian woman, you want a man who can understand your insecurities, a man who is patient with you as you work through them, and a man who is willing to grow with you in a committed relationship. If you want a man like that, one of the best things you can do is to be that type of woman to him.