Here are 3 possible reasons God removed someone for your life.
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1. God Did What He Knew You Couldn’t Do
Let’s say you started dating someone and things seemed really promising. You and this person seemed to be headed down a healthy, biblical road together. But this belief then allowed you to open up your heart much faster than you normally would have. You then start to realize two things at the same time: 1. You are really attached to this person. And 2. God doesn’t want you to be attached to this person.
In kindness God will often do what he knows you are unable to do. Now please don’t misinterpret what I’m saying. I’m not saying that you should live in a passive way, never making proactive decisions that God is telling you to make. As 1 Corinthians 10:13 states:
No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”
Sometimes that way of escape from a bad relationship is that he will give you the strength to break it off and move on. But at other times the way of escape will be that he causes this other person to leave you. If you know you are in a bad relationship that God wants you to leave but this person you are with isn’t leaving you, this means your way of escape is to do it yourself.
But sometimes we can fool ourselves and allow ourselves to be blinded. In these moments God may remove this person from your life because he knows you would never do it on your own.
2. God Knew What You Didn’t Know
I’m a firm believer that God is constantly rescuing us from dangers we don’t even know about (Psalm 31:13-15). For example, it’s possible that you were getting to know someone who you thought would be an extremely godly spouse one day. But then all of a sudden, this person tells you their feelings have changed and they give you that old line, “I think we are just better off as friends.”
You are confused and ask God, “Why did you allow this to happen? Why did this person’s feelings change?” Perhaps you don’t ever get a clear answer back from God about this during your life on earth. It’s possible, however, that in eternity God reveals the backstory to what was really going on in that situation. Perhaps that person you thought was a godly person was actually doing some dark sins in secret. Or perhaps that person was gossiping and saying cruel things about you behind your back and taking you for granted. Or perhaps you were just a side relationship to them and they were already seriously involved with someone else.
The point is, God could have removed that person from your life for reasons you have no idea about. God knew what you didn’t know so he did what you couldn’t have known to do. As Isaiah 46:9-10 (NIV) states:
I am God, and there is no other; I am God, and there is none like me. I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.’”
3. God Loves You More Than You Love Yourself
Sometimes we stay with people who God does not want us with because we have such a low view of ourselves. But God doesn’t see us as we see ourselves. God sees us through the eyes of his fatherly love for us. As Colossians 1:12-14 proclaims:
. . . giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in light. He has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of his beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.”
Sometimes we see ourselves through the lens of our past sins. God sees us through the lens of Jesus’s perfect life. In your own merit, you don’ deserve God’s best. But because of Jesus, you now do deserve God’s best. Jesus didn’t die so you could live a life of bondage and shame. He died and was risen so that we might be transformed into his image (Romans 8:28-29).
God’s love is perfect. He sees us more clearly than we see ourselves. In love, he will often remove people we won’t remove because we have such a low view of ourselves. It may be painful at first, but if God removed someone from your life, you must remember that God loves you more than you love yourself.
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