3 Ways to Be Sure They Are The One

1 Corinthians 13:1-13

Have you ever had a sense that God just revealed “the one” to you, but then you doubted if this was really God speaking or not?

Without getting confirmation, you will lack the peace you need when God really does tell you who you are going to marry.

So here are 3 ways God will confirm who he wants you to marry.

And if you are someone with a strong sense God is calling you to be married one day, I wanted to let you know about an exciting opportunity.

If you don’t know what the Bible really says about relationships, you will be lost, confused, and single for much longer than necessary. But by learning just a few important truths and applying them to your life, you will be far likelier to meet, date, and marry the one God has for you in a much more efficient and healthy way.

That’s why I wanted to let you know I just opened enrollment for my biblical relationship training courses designed to equip you with everything you need to know about finding the right person God wants for you (enrollment will be open between 5/19-5/29).

I’m also offering the biggest scholarship I have ever offered for those of you who enroll before the 5/29/22 deadline. To learn more, click here before the deadline passes by.

1. God Will Confirm Who He Wants You to Marry Through Backing Up Facts with Faith and Faith with Facts

From a biblical point of view, faith is actually a gift from God and not something we create within ourselves, as Romans 12:3 states, “For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.”

Additionally, when faith is truly from God, the thing we hope for will actually be reasonable and supported with evidence (Hebrews 11:1). In Romans 12:6-8, it goes on to state that those gifts we believe we have will actually manifest in our service to others:

“Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads, with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness.”

So verse 3 states God will give us faith to realize what gifts we possess, but then verses 6-8 say there will be factual evidence that we possess those gifts.

Likewise, you will have a sense in your heart that this person is the one but there will also be valid external evidence that this person is the one, like:

  • You will want to be with this person (internal evidence) and this person will want to be with you (external evidence).
  • You will feel like this person loves the Lord (internal evidence) but you will also see their obedience to the Lord (external evidence).
  • You will sense God is saying yes when you pray (internal evidence) and spiritually mature people in your life will validate that this is a biblical relationship (external evidence).

2. God Will Confirm Who He Wants You to Marry By Engaging Both of Your Minds, Hearts, and Wills

In Martyn Lloyd-Jones’s book, Spiritual Depression: Its Causes and Cure, he discusses the importance of the gospel reaching the whole of a person, which he states includes three things: mind, heart, and will. He then uses Romans 6:17 (NIV) to prove this point, which states, “But thanks be to God that, though you used to be slaves to sin, you have come to obey from your heart the pattern of teaching that has now claimed your allegiance.”

The “pattern of teaching” refers to the intellectual truth of the gospel that affects our mind. And when the gospel enters the mind, it then affects the heart, “obey from your heart.” And then when the gospel is truly in your heart, it affects your will, “claimed your allegiance.”

Most people just focus on their hearts when they are trying to decipher if someone is “the one.” But before God engages your heart, he will first engage your mind by showing you if this relationship is in line with “the pattern of teaching” you see in the Bible.

If the relationship is biblical, then God will confirm this relationship by opening your heart to this person and their heart to you. Many people would make a fine Christian couple on paper, but if the heart is not engaged, it is not of God.

And finally, when this is truly the one, you will both make decisions with your will that are in alignment with true love as described in the Bible (1 Corinthians 13:1-13).

3. God Will Confirm Who He Wants You to Marry Through Sovereignly Arranging What You Are Trying to Make Happen

The debates Christians have about man’s free will and God’s sovereign will are not going to stop until Jesus actually returns. All I know is what the Bible says. Yes, God is totally sovereign (Proverbs 16:33b). And yes, man is free (Proverbs 16:33a).

When we apply these principles to this topic about confirmation for the one, it means you will have to put in effort to be in a relationship with this person but God will confirm this is the right relationship by sovereignly causing good fruit to sprout from your efforts to be in this biblical relationship.

For more information about my relationship training courses, along with the scholarship, feel free to click here before the 5/29/22 deadline.

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Mark Ballenger

ApplyGodsWord.com is the writing ministry of Mark Ballenger. To reach Mark, send him an email anytime: markballenger@applygodsword.com

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