4 Biblical Signs God Will Put Two People Together

Psalm 139:16

Here are 4 biblical signs God is preparing to put two people together.

And if you haven’t heard, my new book just came out today. It’s called Christ-Centered Dating: Pursuing a Relationship that Glorifies God. I specifically wrote this book for you, the AGW community.

In this book, I talk about a paradigm shifting concept that I believe is deeply needed at this point in church history. For decades, Christian singles have been taught, “If you want to be married, just wait on God and glorify him and he will take care of the rest.” I believe this is wrong.

Rather than try to glorify God so he will give you a relationship, I believe God wants Christians to seek a relationship to bring him glory. This book will teach you how to get this order correct. And when you do make this shift, it changes everything. You become much freer in relationships and much more effective for God.

And for the launch of this book, I’m doing something a little crazy. If you purchase the book within the next 10 days, I’m giving you one of my most important AGW University courses completely for free.  The course is called 10 Steps to Meet The One. It’s 10 video-based classes and all the content is in writing too. But to get this bonus course with the purchase of the book, you have to order it before February 17th at 11:59pm.

To learn more about Christ-Centered Dating and for the instructions on how to get the free course, scroll down to the end of this article.

1. You Will Both Be Willing to Reject Each Other If You Sense God Does Not Want You Two Together

One of the best ways to know if you are truly hearing a “yes” from God is to first be completely willing accept a “no” from God. If you are unable to accept a “no,” when God then says “yes,” you will have doubts in your mind; you will be unsure if God is truly saying yes or if you are just hearing what you want to hear.

It’s similar to the test that God put Abraham through when he told him to sacrifice Isaac (Genesis 22:1). After Abraham passed the test, God said, “. . . for now I know that you fear God, seeing you have not withheld your son, your only son, from me.” 

We should also remember that the Bible states that God knows all things (Psalm 139:16). In this sense, God knew Abraham would pass this test. So why did he put him through the test? Perhaps an additional reason was that God also wanted Abraham to know that he would pass the test. Perhaps Abraham was able to fully enjoy his son now that he knew he still loved God more than his son.

Likewise, when God puts two Christians together to glorify him in a relationship, their deepest joy will not be in each other but in loving God with each other. If you both know you would let this relationship go if it was not God’s will, this is a great sign that it is God’s will for you two to be together.

2. You Will Both Be Willing to Invest in Each Other Without the Guarantee that This Relationship Will Last

One of the biggest barriers I’ve seen Christian singles struggle with over the years is their desire to know the outcome of the risks they are required to take. Because we know that God knows the future, we often wait until God reveals the future to us before we are willing to take any relationship risks.

God, however, is not going to take away the need for risk by telling us the future. Why? Because for true love to blossom, there must be some real cost and risk for those involved. When two people bet on each other and are willing to sacrifice their time and emotional energy on each other, this increases the bond between them. If you only risked your love on someone when you had a guarantee that it would not bring you any pain, this would not be a true risk and this would not be true love.

If the love doesn’t cost you anything, it’s not real love (John 15:12-13). When God is preparing two people to be together, he will not tell them that they will be together forever. Rather, he will give them both a love for each other that will give them the courage to step out into the unknown together.

3. You Will Both Be Willing to Reject All Other Relationship Options to Be With Each Other

“I wonder if there is someone better out there for me?” “I wonder if I’m committing too quickly?” “I wonder if we are compatible enough to be happy together?”

These are valid questions and I’m not saying it’s wrong for someone to ask these types of questions. But when God is preparing two people to be together, eventually those two people will be willing to say “no” to all other relationship options so they can have this one relationship option.

A Christian marriage is supposed to reflect the gospel (Ephesians 5:21-33). Jesus said, “Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant in search of fine pearls, who, on finding one pearl of great value, went and sold all that he had and bought it” (Matthew 13:45-46).

As a reflection of the great commitment and love between Christ and his church, a godly couple will also have a powerful commitment and love that is unique between just the two of them.

4. You Will Both Be Willing to Practice Delayed Gratification

Worldly couples and godly couples both date, they both are attracted to their partner, and they both want to have pleasure together. The difference is that the godly couple will practice delayed gratification in obedience to Christ while the worldly couple will just do what feels good in the moment (Ephesians 4:1).

If God is preparing you to say no to quick pleasures now, he is actually preparing massive pleasure for you both in the future (Mark 10:29-31).

In Christ-Centered Dating, I dive into important relationship concepts that I’ve never publicly taught on before, and I share vulnerable details about my relationship with Bethany that I’ve never talked about.

This book has 12 chapters and they are broken down into 3 sections. Section 1 is about preparing your heart and getting ready internally for a relationship. Section 2 is about how to pursue a woman or be inviting towards a man so you can actually get into a glorifying relationship. And Section 3 is about how to operate in a relationship once you do start dating someone so you can know if God does or does not want you to marry this person.

For more information about this new book and the free AGW University course, read the instructions below. 


Step 1: Before 2/17/2023 (11:59pm), purchase Christ-Centered Dating on Amazon in any format (paperback, eBook, audiobook) by clicking here: Christ-Centered Dating: Pursuing a Relationship that Glorifies God.

Step 2: Email your proof of purchase to here: bonuscourse@applygodsword.com

(You can simply forward your Amazon receipt/confirmation email to the above email. Or you can also take a screenshot of the receipt/confirmation and send it to the above email.)

Step 3: Within 24 hours, once your proof of purchase has been verified, you will receive an email with the 100% off scholarship code for the free bonus course (along with the link to enroll in the course).

Step 4: Enroll in the course, 10 Steps to Meet The One. At check out, use your scholarship code. The course can also be found here: 10 Steps to Meet The One: How to Step Out in Faith Rather than “Just Waiting” in Fear

Step 5: Enjoy the book and free bonus course! And if you find the book helpful, it would be a big blessing to me if you could leave a review on Amazon. This helps other people feel more comfortable purchasing the book and learning the important truths inside of it.

God bless!


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Mark Ballenger

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