What is God saying to a man who has strong feelings for a woman that are not going away? Is this a sign God wants this man to wait for this woman? Or is something else going on?
Here are 4 possible reasons for why God is not removing a man’s feelings for a woman.
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1. This Is His Future Wife but the Woman Just Needs More Time
If it were up to us, we would all prefer that our feelings would perfectly match up with our future spouse’s feelings so we started liking each other at the exact same time. In reality, however, this rarely happens.
Thus, it’s certainly possible that God is not removing a man’s feelings for a woman because this would work against the Lord’s will. Perhaps instead of taking away your feelings for a woman, God will eventually give her feelings for you. If we always ran away from things that we had to wait for, we would miss out on many blessings the Lord wants to give.
Either way, sometimes you just need to wait longer to get more clarity from God. Lamentations 3:25, “The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him.”
2. The Man Has Come to Believe This Is His Future Wife Even Though She Is Not
While you might have feelings for this woman because she is going to be your future wife one day, that is certainly not the only possibility. We also have to consider the possibility that you have wrongly come to expect this woman’s feelings will eventually change so you two can be together one day.
If you really like a woman and you believe she has godly qualities, and if you just started to pursue her so she needs time to get to know you, I think it is wise to give it some time to see what happens. However, after a few weeks or a few months, I believe it is much wiser to conclude that this is not the woman God has for you if you like her but she has not yet responded positively.
While it is possible that a woman’s feelings will change or she just needs more time to warm up to you, it is unwise to give a woman too much time and attention when her actions have not warranted this from you.
God does speak through facts occurring in reality (Isaiah 55:10-11). If there is no factual evidence that this woman will ever invite you to pursue her, it’s very likely God has a much better relationship option in mind for you. You don’t want to miss out on what you could have because you are clinging so tightly to what you won’t have.
3. God Wants a Man to Be Extra Bold Towards This Woman
Let’s flip back to the possibility that God does want you with this woman. Sometimes God will give the man stronger feelings for the woman because he wants the man to be motivated to pursue the woman. This is especially relevant when the woman is fearful. She may need a bold man who is not easily scared off before she will trust his pursuit and open up.
There are women with hard exteriors because they have had to survive in this harsh world without the protection of a man. However, sometimes they have been so guarded for so long, they don’t know how to open up anymore even when a man is trustworthy.
If you don’t want to deal with a woman who has this type of issue, there’s nothing wrong with that. You are not expected to pursue a woman who doesn’t respond well to your pursuit. When you read Song of Solomon, for example, it’s clear both the man and woman were expressing interest.
However, if you are the type of guy with a thick skin and you feel this woman does like you but she’s just scared, God may be giving you strong feelings for her so you can pursue her even though she’s still guarded.
4. God Wants the Man to Focus on Other Relationship Opportunities but the Man Is Resisting
God isn’t going to force you to move on. He respects our choices and will let us get stuck waiting for something if that is what we choose to do.
Of course he will be sending us signs that we could see if we wanted to see them. He won’t let his people take wrong turns if they are truly seeking after his will (Proverbs 3:5-6). However, if you don’t want to move on, if you don’t want to see the truth, if you are blocking your ears to God because you know he’s telling you to let this woman go, your feelings for this woman will remain.
In the end, if you follow God faithfully, one day you will be able to look back with immense gratitude in your heart. You will see how miserable you would have been with this woman or you will see how God brought you two together at the exact right time.
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