5 Biblical Marks of a Woman Who Would Complement (Not Complicate) Your Life

As a Christian man, the last thing you want to do is make your life worse by adding a woman to it. God created a woman to bring value (Genesis 2:18), not drama. Therefore, here are 5 biblical marks of a woman who would complement your life rather than complicate it.

1. A Woman Who Will Complement (Not Complicate) Your Life Is Marked By an Inner Security with Her Own Femininity

A woman who will complicate your life is a woman who is determined to compete with you. Instead of embracing the differences between your masculinity and her femininity, she will have a deep insecurity that she is less important than you, simply because she does not fill the same spaces as you.

You can never solve this problem for her. No matter how much you talk about it, no matter how much therapy you two get, and no matter how much you promise to be better, she will always bring drama into your life because she is not at peace with herself.

Only when a woman has embraced her God-given femininity can she pair with your God-given masculinity. God made the man and woman both in his image (Genesis 1:27); but he also made them differently (Genesis 2:18). He made us to complement each other.

2. A Woman Who Will Complement (Not Complicate) Your Life Is Marked By Relational Ambitions

I’m not saying it is always unbiblical for a woman to have career ambitions. When you read about the Proverbs 31 woman, for example, she certainly was entrepreneurial (Proverbs 31:16, 18, 24). However, her main focus was her household. Everything came second to her family. Her family loved her so much because she loved them so well (Proverbs 31:27-29).

While a man should have ambitions that relate to his most important relationships, too, the way he serves his family will look different than the way a godly woman serves her family. Therefore, if he has a wife who wants them both to serve the family in the same way, she will complicate his mission as a man in unnecessary ways.

A godly woman frees a man to play his masculine roles because she is happy to fulfill her feminine roles.

3. A Woman Who Will Complement (Not Complicate) Your Life Is Marked By a Godly Contentment and Not a Love for Money

The Bible is very clear about the dangers of materialism (1 Timothy 6:6-10). Sadly, money is an idol for many modern women. No matter how much you give to a woman who has a love of money, she will never be satisfied.

However, when a woman has learned to be content in the Lord (1 Timothy 6:6) and sees money as a tool to be used (1 Timothy 6:18-19) rather than a god to be worshiped, she can be a major blessing to a man.

4. A Woman Who Will Complement (Not Complicate) Your Life Is Marked By a Soft Spirit

No matter how physically attracted you are to a woman, you will always lose attraction for her if she disrespects you. This is why so many men marry a woman whom they are deeply attracted to, only to quickly lose attraction for her early in their marriage. If she is harsh and disrespectful, your passion for her will die.

Of course, a man must remain faithful and committed once he’s entered into the covenant bond of marriage. Just know that you must do everything in your power to choose wisely before making this covenant. Make sure you marry a woman who has a soft spirit. As 1 Peter 3:3-4 (NLT) explains:

Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.”

5. A Woman Who Will Complement (Not Complicate) Your Life Is Marked By a Joyful Devotion to Glorifying God

A godly woman will choose to submit to her husband, not because he always deserves it, but because she is committed to glorifying God. In other words, her submission to her husband is really rooted in her obedience to the Lord.

If a woman needs you to be the perfect leader to respect you, she will constantly disrespect you. You both will be imperfect. But when you both understand and apply God’s grace, you can be beautifully imperfect together (Ephesians 5:33).

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