
While God does want us to always love all people as he loves all people, when it comes to loving someone in a romantic, relational way, there are standards God wants us to have.
A few weeks ago I wrote an article titled 4 Reasons God Let You Fall in Love with Someone Who Does Not Love You Back. Many of you asked the follow up question, “Why would God allow someone to fall in love with me even though I don’t love them back?”
The term “love language” is not a phrase you will find it the Bible. Rather, it’s a term that comes from Dr. Gary Chapman’s book called The Five Love Languages. In this book he describes 5 common ways people receive love: words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, physical touch, and gifts.
In this article, I’m going to talk about 4 things God may lead you to do that often seem counterintuitive when someone pulls away from you. Points 1 and 2 are counterintuitive things you should do if you sense God leading you to move on. Points 3 and 4 are counterintuitive things you should do if you sense God leading you to remain open to being with this person.
Whenever I talk about forgiveness, I feel it’s important to first point out the biblical difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. This is important because many people unwisely allow themselves to keep getting abused by unhealthy people because they feel that’s what it means to forgive. But that’s not biblical forgiveness.