5 Spiritual Things that Happen When Two People Have Sex Together

Sex is a powerful gift from God. However, like any powerful gift, it has the potential to be used in both positive and negative ways. Therefore, here are 5 spiritual things that happen when you have sex with someone that can be used for either good or evil.

1. When You Have Sex with Someone, It Can Create a Soul Tie

While I do believe in soul ties, I don’t use the phrase “soul tie” like a lot of other people. I don’t believe your soul is literally mingled to someone, as though you two now share a part of each other forever. Many teach that when you have sex with someone, you lose little bits of yourself and other people then possess those little bits. I don’t believe that happens because there’s no biblical evidence for that type of thing.

However, there is biblical evidence for attachments to form between two people that are very deep and powerful (1 Samuel 18:1). That’s what I’m talking about when I use the phrase “soul tie.” This is why I believe there are actually good and bad soul ties.

When the Bible talks about your spirit and soul, it’s referring to the immaterial parts of you. We are more than flesh and bones. We have a mind, emotions, and a will. These parts of us can become “tied” (i.e., attached) to other people through our choices.

When you get married and have sex with your spouse, it helps create a good soul tie. However, when you have sex outside of marriage, it helps create a bad soul tie. Thankfully, when you repent of these sins and you seek God’s grace, the power of the gospel breaks these unholy bonds and sets you free.

For more on this topic, you can read my article called What Does the Bible Say About Soul Ties?

2. When You Have Sex with Someone, It Either Brings Blessings or Curses Into Your Life

The world and Satan want you to think that sex is just a natural thing humans are supposed to do, like eating, sleeping, and breathing. It’s not. Sex is never a neutral act. It’s either something that is extremely pleasing to God when done between a husband and wife or extremely displeasing to God when done by anyone who is not married.

The Bible is also clear that God rewards us for our obedience and lets us reap bad things when we disobey. Galatians 6:7-8, “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.”

When a husband and wife have sex, it brings good things like children, holy pleasure, and healthy intimacy. When two unmarried people have sex, it brings shame, STDs, and unhealthy bonds.

3. When You Have Sex with Someone, It Isolates You from Spiritually Connecting with Other People

Sex is supposed to be between one husband and one wife because it was designed by God to help a couple become a pair (Genesis 2:24). It’s meant to bond two people together in a way where they become isolated from other romantic partners.

In marriage, sex obviously helps create a healthy isolation that protect the commitment made through the marriage covenant (Proverbs 5:15-23). However, outside of marriage, sex can cause two people to get isolated from their future spouses. If you’re in an unhealthy relationship but you’re having sex with this person, you are also spiritually pushing your God-ordained spouse away from you.

4. When You Have Sex with Someone, It Affects Your Spiritual Vision

Sex can shape the way you see the world in both good or bad ways. For example, if you are resisting sexual pleasure with people who are not your spouse and only having sex with someone who is your spouse, this will give you eyes just for that person God wants you with.

However, when you’re having sex with more than one person or with someone who is not your spouse, this release of pleasure will cloud your reasoning and tempt you into delusions. It’s like what Isaiah 5:20 states, “Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!”

These types of people are so dangerous because they actually think they are doing the right thing when they are doing the wrong thing. Any sin will eventually lead to this delusional living, but this is especially prevalent when it comes to sex outside of marriage (Romans 1:24-27).

Instead of bonding two people together, sexual sin splits those people a part, because sin always creates more problems. God will not bless us when we are living in sin.

5. When You Have Sex with Someone, It Brings God’s Judgement

As I said, sex is never a neutral act. It’s either something good or something bad. This means sex is something we will always be spiritually judged for.

When we think of judgment, we usually think of being judged for the bad we’ve done. But the Bible is clear that we will also be judged for all the good we’ve done. In other words, when we die, everything we did for good or bad will be accounted for by God.

2 Corinthians 5:9-10, “So whether we are at home or away, we make it our aim to please him. For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil.”

Thus, every time two people have sex together, it always brings spiritual judgment in one form or the other.

Relates Article: What Does the Bible Say About Soul Ties?