Today, I’m going to share with you the secret no one else has told you. While you might be watching people on the internet who are telling you they have a secret trick that will help you find love, I’m telling you right here and now that my tip is the one that will actually help you find love.
But before I do, I want to quickly remind you that today is the last chance to enroll in AGW University with the 50% off scholarship and the 90 days of one-on-one email coaching with me. I’ll share more about AGW University at the end of this article.
Okay, are you ready for the secret tip? Here it is: The secret tip that will help you meet the one ten times faster is . . . that there is no secret tip. That’s the real secret tip! That there is no secret!
Stick with me! I’m being serious. I’m not trying to clickbait you here. This is actually the secret to meeting the right person as fast as possible.
To help you see how this tip is actually the real secret you need to know, I’m now going to share with you 3 reasons for why this tip will actually help you meet the right person much faster.
1. When You Know There Are No Secret Tips to Find the One, You Will Be Able to Invest Your Time and Energy Into What Matters Most – Which Is Your Character
The reason people are constantly duped by lavish promises is that hard work scares us. It’s intimidating. And it’s not very fun. But no matter what you want in life, I promise you that there is no secret formula that somehow erases your need for hard work. As the old saying goes, “If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is!”
Proverbs 13:11 states, “Wealth gained hastily will dwindle, but whoever gathers little by little will increase it.” As noted in the ESV footnotes, the Hebrew word used for “hastily” could also be translated as “by fraud.” That’s why the NLT translates this verse as, “Wealth from get-rich-quick schemes quickly disappears; wealth from hard work grows over time.”
The most important variable in the equation for finding love is your character. Yes, there are other variables. You need to meet the right person at the right time. The other person needs to be ready too. But what is most in your control is you. And what matters most in your life is the actions you take or don’t take.
The problem is, character development is extremely challenging. Everything good is by grace. But oftentimes, we think that this means everything good in life will be easy and require no personal effort. Notice, however, what Romans 5:3-5 states:
Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”
Don’t waste your life searching for some magical tip that will lead you to the one. The real key is to look in the mirror and be brutally honest with yourself. What can you change that would allow you to thrive in a relationship?
And even when you are doing really well and your character is thriving, it requires hard work to maintain that health. It’s like physical fitness. Just because you get really in shape doesn’t mean you will be in shape forever if you stop doing what got you there.
There are no secret tips. If you want anything good, you must do the work.
2. When You Know There Is No Secret Tip to Find The One, You Can Stop Wasting Time Listening to People Who Are Just Telling You What You Want to Hear
Why do people who win the lottery usually go broke? If you win millions of dollars, you should never be without money for the rest of your life. So why does this happen so often?
The reason lottery winners have so many problems holding onto those millions is that they didn’t earn that money. They won it. When you earn money, you are developing the characteristics that will also help you keep that money: wisdom, prudence, self-control, etc.
Additionally, when you win millions, you have an easy-come-easy-go mindset. When you work hard for money, you are much more cautious in how you spend it because you know the worth of a dollar.
Lastly, the very few million-dollar lottery winners are actually just pawns being used by those in power who want to manipulate all of us. By showing us a few people who won millions with the lottery, they trick us into thinking this is a realistic path to becoming rich. For the few who win, millions of other people fork over their money, never get rich, and waste their time dreaming instead of following principles that could actually make them wealthy. When it comes to our spiritual riches, 2 Timothy 4:3-5 states:
For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths. But as for you, always be sober-minded, endure suffering, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry.”
In other words, real biblical preachers tell people what they need to hear, which isn’t always what they want to hear. Real preachers “do the work.” False teachers, however, trick people by telling them what they know they want to hear.
Just as it would be foolish to think the best way to become a millionaire is to play the lottery rather than following the business practices and self-discipline most millionaires use to become wealthy, so too is it foolish to try all the relationship silver bullets people are promising online rather than following the timeless biblical principles actual healthy couples follow.
There are countless relationship gurus out there who are promising you some secret trick to finding love. Trust me, it doesn’t exist! Real love is costly (John 15:13). If someone is telling you how to make love easy, that person is straight-up lying to you. Love is never easy.
But love is worth it (1 Corinthians 13:1-3)!
3. When You Stop Thinking There Is a Secret Tip, You Will Be Prepared to Fight Through the Trials that Will Happen When You Meet the Right Person God Has for You
The “secret formula” mentality prepares you to fail because it makes you think that if you do everything right, the relationship God has for you should be easy. But it won’t be!
Sure, parts of it should be easy. Seasons of the relationships should be simple. But there will also be hard parts to this relationship, and difficult seasons between you both. If you think everything is supposed to be perfect when you’re following God’s will, you will always be turning to the left and right when all you really should be doing is continuing to go straight. Sometimes we’re already on the right path, but we take detours because we didn’t expect the right path to be so difficult.
Problems in a relationship don’t always mean there is a problem in your identification of the right person. Just because you two will have problems doesn’t mean you two have missed God’s will and shouldn’t be together. Yes, sometimes the problems will mean that. But when you meet the right person, never assume it will be totally easy.
As iron sharpens iron, God will use the difficulties to increase your character, your love for each other, and your love for Christ (Proverbs 27:17).
When you get to work and do the hard things most people aren’t willing to do, you are positioned to meet the one ten times faster.
And that’s really what AGW University is all about. I’m not offering anyone a magical formula. I’m not guaranteeing you a marriage if you enroll. Rather, I’ve created a biblical blueprint people can follow if they want to do the hard work to develop into the type of person who can thrive in a relationship one day.
These courses will take a lot of time and energy to get through. The results aren’t going to happen really fast. But if you are someone who wants to do a deep study on relationships so you know what work you need to do to give yourself the best chance of being in a healthy relationship one day, this could be a great opportunity for you!
To check out all the course content before enrolling so you can see if this might be a good fit for you, click here!
The deadline to enroll is tonight by 11:59pm.
God bless!
-Mark Ballenger
