
Does God want you in a relationship with that person? Will you two end up together? Should you at least give this person a chance?

What I’m about to say is going to come off as unbiblical at first. So please read this whole article to get the full context of what I’m really saying. If you do, I believe you will better enjoy your Christian singleness and be better situated to find a Christian spouse. Alright, here it goes:

While feelings should not be our primary guide in life, when it comes to meeting the person God wants you to marry, they are “a” variable we need to consider.
The Scriptures and observable facts in reality should be given more weight when making relationship decisions. However, Scripture itself states that marriage is not a command. Rather, it is a biblical option for those who want it. Thus, you should be aware of your own feelings if you really want to know who God is leading you to marry or not marry.

If you’re a Christian man and you believe a woman may be interested in you, what should you actually do? Should you wait for her to make the first move? Should you immediately pursue her? Or will that come off as desperate? Will you scare her away if you act too soon or miss your chance if you wait too long? Should you just “let things happen naturally” or be more proactive?

Before I get started, I want to make clear that this isn’t about blaming the church as if it’s the enemy. I’m also not saying that the primary purpose of church is to help people get married. Ultimately, the church is God’s idea, and its primary purpose is to proclaim the gospel, disciple Christians, and glorify God.