
A lot of times, a single woman who wants to be married one day will think and pray so much about God sending her a man who pursues her that she often forgets to prepare herself to respond properly once a good man does start pursuing her.

Before I get started, I want to make clear that this isn’t about blaming the church as if it’s the enemy. I’m also not saying that the primary purpose of church is to help people get married. Ultimately, the church is God’s idea, and its primary purpose is to proclaim the gospel, disciple Christians, and glorify God.

When you need to make a decision, the last thing you would want to do is miss God’s warning. However, sometimes the Lord’s voice sounds muffled. The signs seem cloudy. We’re anxious, so we lack peace, which could mean we aren’t trusting God. Or maybe our lack of peace is from God because he’s saying no, but we don’t want to hear it.

In most cases, a woman doesn’t end up in a terrible marriage by accident. Yes, there are certainly situations where a woman was genuinely deceived by a highly manipulative man. But more often than not, when a woman looks back and wonders, “How did I end up in this terrible marriage?” the warning signs were there all along.