5 Ways to Make Your Husband Feel Really Loved By You

Here are 5 ways a wife can make her husband feel really loved.

Also, here’s the other article called 5 Ways to Make Your Wife Feel Really Loved By You.

1. If You Want to Make Your Husband Feel Really Loved, You Must Figure Out What Makes Him Feel Really Respected By You

While there are differences between husbands and wives (Ephesians 5:33), there are even variations among individual wives and individual husbands. Thus, we each need to really understand how our wives receive love and how our husbands receive respect.

Since I’m talking to wives in this article, to really make your husband feel loved, you have to figure out specific words and actions that will make him feel really respected by you. We’ve all heard of love languages. But I think there are also “respect languages.”

You have to learn your husband’s “respect language.” What makes him feel respected by you? To love your husband well, you need to be able to answer that question.

2. If You Want to Make Your Husband Feel Really Loved, Initiate Physical Intimacy Somewhat Regularly

While all men are unique, I would say that most men have a strong desire to experience love through physical intimacy. While that certainly refers to sex, I think most wives would be surprised at how differently their husbands would start acting if they simply received more physical touches from them, not just more sex.

I think many women avoid this because their husbands instantly want to get naked if they get any physical attention from their wives. A hug turns into a booty grab. A booty grab turns into . . . well . . . you know. So I get that a wife may not want to make physical contact with her husband if she is not craving a sexual experience as much as he is.

However, I think a happy medium is to communicate this fear. It’s okay for a wife to say, “Hey, husband, sometimes I just want to hug you without getting naked.” Or, “Hey, husbands, let me snuggle up to you on the couch for a few hours, and then we can go enjoy each other in bed later on.”

The point I’m making here is that if you want to make your husband feel loved, giving him little physical touches will go a long way. He might not even process how important your little touches are. But trust me, for most men, those little signs of physical affection are filling their love tank in ways they don’t even realize.

And, of course, a man really does crave sex with his wife. However, this isn’t just about sex. It’s one of the ways he feels connected and loved by her. While I think it’s healthy and normal for the husband to initiate this in most instances, I do think it will really make him feel loved if, every now and then, the wife initiates a sexual experience.

Proverbs 5:18-19, “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.”

3. If You Want to Make Your Husband Feel Really Loved, Encourage Him to Have Fun Without You

Each couple needs to figure out what is healthy for them. I know there are plenty of husbands who are golfing way too much. I know some guys are already having plenty of fun without their wives, and they need to do a much better job of planning for family fun. As Philippians 2:4 states, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

But since our topic here is how to make your husband feel loved, I think it’s important to note that some men feel guilty about wanting to do things on their own. And a lot of times, they feel guilty because they sense their wife’s disappointment that he even wants to do something by himself. And so, when he does go, even if she agrees, he can’t fully enjoy his time away because he knows his wife isn’t happy about it.

This is a big topic that really touches on many other possible issues. Perhaps the wife is being overly dependent and needs to also have some things she enjoys away from her husband. Or perhaps the man has been selfish over the years so that even when he does have a healthy balance with his hobbies, the wife is triggered because of past hurts. If this is a topic you want me to talk more about, let me know in the comments.

But the point stands, if you really want to make your husband feel loved, release him to have some time doing things he enjoys that you probably don’t enjoy.

Lastly, when a man can get out and do something mindless, it helps him to come back home to serve even better. It helps him reset and to be present in a fresh way. So when you encourage him to get out and have fun, you are also blessing yourself when he returns because you will have a refreshed husband on your hands.

4. If You Want to Make Your Husband Feel Really Loved, Pray for Him and Make Sure He Knows You’re Praying for Him

Notice that Paul didn’t just pray for those churches he loved. He made sure that they knew he was praying for them.

• Ephesians 1:16-18, “I do not cease to give thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers, that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of him, having the eyes of your hearts enlightened . . .”
• Philippians 1:3-9, “I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always in every prayer of mine for you all making my prayer with joy . . . It is right for me to feel this way about you all, because I hold you in my heart . . . For God is my witness, how I yearn for you all with the affection of Christ Jesus. And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment . . .”
• Colossians 1:3, 9, “We always thank God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, when we pray for you . . . And so, from the day we heard, we have not ceased to pray for you . . .”

So absolutely pray for your husband! But also, make sure he knows you’re praying for him. Ask him for prayer requests. And, for example, when you know he has a big meeting at work, text him that you’re praying for him.

Your prayer support will make him feel very loved!

5. To Make Your Husband Feel Loved, Help Him Succeed in Loving You Well and Show Gratitude When He Does

More than anything in the world, a good husband wants to know he’s loving his wife well (Ephesians 5:25). But the truth is, we often don’t know how to do this. We want to, but women can be a mystery to us at times.

Thus, to really love your husband, you need to help him know how he can love you. When he knows he’s making you feel loved and he senses your authentic gratitude for how well he’s loving you, he will feel like an absolute king! He will love being around you when he knows you love being around him. When you make him feel like he’s succeeding in loving you, he will want to love you more.

On the other hand, if you make him feel like a failure around you, he will start to avoid you. This will make you feel even more unloved by him, which will make him feel even more like a failure, causing him to run further away.

If you’re already in this negative cycle, you can break it by offering him grace. Choose to be around him and love him because you have an unconditional love for him. Don’t need him to to deserve your pleasure right away. Choose to be happy with him as a way of loving him through grace. But then, when he senses your grace and love, teach him to love you well. I’m not saying you treat him like a child or command him to do things. But just as you need to know what makes him feel respected as an individual man, you need to help him know how to make you feel loved as an individual woman.

If you are never happy no matter what he tries, that’s a you problem. We all need Jesus to fill us first and foremost. If you can learn to be happy with the good things he’s doing even though he’s not doing everything you want, that encouragement for what he is doing well will motivate him to do even better in the ways he’s not doing great.

Never nag. Encourage. Love. Support. When you breathe life into your husband, you are also helping him breathe life back into you.

Luke 6:31, “And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.”

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