5 Signs Your Girlfriend (or Crush) Is Blocking You from Being with Your Future Wife

One of the most overlooked barriers to finding the woman God truly wants you to marry is the influence of the wrong woman. Your attachment to her can blind you, delay you, or distract you from the healthy Christian wife the Lord wants for you.

Therefore, here are 5 signs your girlfriend or crush is blocking you from finding your future wife.

1. She Is Blocking You from Your Future Wife If Her Influence on You Is Causing Unwise Waiting

Sometimes a man gets so emotionally attached to a woman—whether she is an actual girlfriend or just someone he’s hoping will become one—that he waits for her far longer than is wise. He tells himself, “Maybe she’ll change and become wife material later on,” or “Maybe she’ll finally choose me,” or “Maybe I can help her become a Christian,” even though the fruit of the relationship consistently points to a dead end.

Scripture warns us about wasting time. Ephesians 5:15-17 states, “Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” Thus, it’s time to let a woman go if:

• She has zero interest in getting married anytime soon even though you’ve dated for a sufficient amount of time
• She won’t give you a firm answer about her feelings when you initiate conversations about the future
• She is hot and then cold, always changing her mind about you
• She enjoys your attention but refuses commitment
• She is causing you to wait in ways that are unwise and unfruitful

Unwise waiting always delays God’s best.

2. She Is Blocking You from Your Future Wife If She Has Become a Sexual Temptation to You

When a woman consistently stirs up sexual temptation in your life—either through physical boundary violations, flirtatious behavior, immodesty, or emotional seduction—she is not helping you walk toward God’s will. She’s pulling you away from it.

Sexual sin doesn’t just damage purity; it damages discernment. Hebrews 12:16-17 (NIV) states:

See that no one is sexually immoral, or is godless like Esau, who for a single meal sold his inheritance rights as the oldest son. Afterward, as you know, when he wanted to inherit this blessing, he was rejected. Even though he sought the blessing with tears, he could not change what he had done.”

Sexual sin blinds you. It confuses you. It attaches your emotions to a woman for reasons that have nothing to do with godly compatibility. Many Christian men stay tied to the wrong woman simply because physical temptation feels like an emotional connection. But lust is not love—and temptation is not confirmation.

If sexual compromise dominates your relationship with her, she is not your future wife; thus, staying with her (or maintaining the hope you will be with her one day) is stopping you from meeting your future wife. You need to leave her, repent of your sins, and be transformed into the type of man your future godly wife is looking for.

3. She Is Blocking You from Your Future Wife If Your Idolization of Her Is Blinding You from Enjoying a Real but Imperfect Woman

Some men would be married by now if they weren’t so obsessed with the wrong woman. Idolization is dangerous because it creates a fantasy woman in your mind—a perfect, idealized version of her that doesn’t actually exist. You compare every other woman to this fantasy version, and of course, no one can compete. But the truth is, the woman you are idolizing can’t live up to the fantasy you’ve created of her either.

Scripture warns us against turning a person into something more than human. 1 John 5:21 states, “Little children, keep yourselves from idols.”

Idolizing a woman makes you blind to every real woman God brings across your path. You overlook good prospects. You dismiss women with godly character. You ignore women who actually like you because they don’t match the fantasy.

The woman God wants you to marry will be godly, but she will not be perfect. If your emotional fixation on one woman keeps you from appreciating someone real, then your crush or girlfriend is blocking you from the woman God actually prepared for you.

4. She Is Blocking You from Your Future Wife If She Discourages Your Biblical Masculinity Instead of Encouraging It

A woman who is aligned with God’s will for you will encourage you to lead. She won’t shame you with feminist nonsense about men and women being the same. The Bible says men and women are equally important, but it also says they are different (Genesis 1:27; Ephesians 5:22-33). To be equal, people don’t need to be the same.

A godly woman will celebrate your differences as a man and woman, not put you down because she feels threatened by your strength.

5. She Is Blocking You If She Is Not Capable of Being Your “Helper”

Genesis 2:18 says, “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.’”

A helper is a partner, a source of strength, someone who complements your calling and joins you in God’s mission.

Your future wife will help—spiritually, emotionally, practically. If the woman in your life right now cannot be that kind of partner, she is not the woman God intends for you. Let her go so the Lord can bless you with the partner you need (1 Peter 3:7).

Here’s a related article called 4 Biblical Marks of a Good Woman Sent By God.