There are times when God wants you with the very person you want for yourself. However, there are also times when you will want to be with someone that God is not planning on giving to you.
While we can’t know for certain that God will put us with someone until it actually happens, there are certain indicators, or “signs,” that would point you to conclude that it’s very likely that God is going to put you with someone.
And while it’s not helpful to try to know the future just out of curiosity, it is helpful to know what signs to look for in a situation like this so you can guard your heart, manage expectations, and invest in the right opportunities rather than wasting time on something that is probably not God’s will for you.
With all that said, here are 4 signs it’s highly likely that God will put you with the person you want to be with.
1. If the Connection Is Small but Growing Slowly with Time, that Is a Good Sign God Wants You with This Person that You Like
As a Christian, there are some obvious biblical signs you should see before even considering someone. Is this person a believer (1 Corinthians 7:39)? Are you two theologically compatible (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)? Do you have ministry callings that don’t conflict? Is there a mutual attraction (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)? I’ve talked about these types of things before, and most Christians are generally aware of what Scripture requires.
However, as believers seeking to be spiritually and biblically sensitive, we sometimes overlook the simple signs that all romantic relationships should have. For example, when a man and a woman are headed towards an exclusive relationship, there is always progress. The progress can be slow or fast, but there is always progress.
Thus, when you have been waiting for many months or even years, that is not a good sign that God is really planning on putting you two together. As I said in the intro, I’m not saying we can guarantee what God is planning for you. My goal here is simply to help you understand what is likely or unlikely. And it’s not likely you two are meant to be if the connection hasn’t matured into dating, even though you two have had plenty of chances already.
But when you and someone are taking small steps towards an exclusive romance with each other that could lead to a holy marriage union, that is a good sign that it is very likely God will put you with the person you like.
What are some of those little steps you should notice?
2. If You Two Are Verbally and Actively Emotionally Investing in Each Other, that Is a Good Sign God Wants You with This Person You Like
There are countless little signs that will tell you whether you and someone are actually making progress or just stagnating, and thus probably not meant to be. Generally speaking, however, I would categorize these little signs into two camps, verbal (Ephesians 5:15) and deeds (1 John 3:18).
You can’t just have deeds, and you can’t just have words. To really trust that a connection is growing, you need both. So, what are some examples of verbal signs that an intimate connection is growing?
- If you two communicate with each other more often than you do with other people.
- If you two talk outside of the common areas that normally link you. So if you work with someone, go to church with them, or serve with them, it would be important for you two to connect verbally outside those realms to really know if something is forming.
- If you two are complementing each other and having long, enjoyable conversations, that is a good sign you’re really connecting.
What are examples of non-verbal signs that an intimate connection is growing?
- If you both make a point of finding each other when you know you are in the same place, that is a good sign.
- If you both are making time in your schedules to have face-to-face interactions with each other outside the common areas where you normally see each other, that is a good sign.
- If you are both eager to offer assistance when opportunities arise, that is a good sign.
Boaz and Ruth are a great example of this. In Ruth 2, Boaz was verbally and actionably positive towards Ruth. In Ruth 3, she was verbally and actionably positive towards him. And in Ruth 4, they got married.
3. If Other People Are Confirming What You Sense, That Is a Good Sign God Probably Is Going to Put You Two Together
Hopefully, you’re seeing that the real “signs” that God is putting two people together aren’t random feelings, repetitive thoughts, or dreams. While God could speak through those things, our thoughts, feelings, and dreams also require our own internal interpretations. But things that are happening in the flesh between a man and woman are different.
With that said, whenever these types of signs are manifesting, other people should also be able to sense what you are sensing about this connection. To help confirm what we think God is leading us to do, the Lord wants us to depend on other Christians for support. While we need to make the final choice for our lives, it’s biblical to include others in our attempts to follow God’s will.
Proverbs 12:15, “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.”
4. If Your Prayers About This Person Keep Getting Answered, That Is a Good Sign God Is Probably Leading You Two Together
When we pray for something that is not God’s will, the Lord will answer our prayer not by changing his will but by changing us. He will help us accept the no and learn to want what he wants for us. Even when the answer is no, a heart connected to God in prayer is filled with the peace of Christ (Philippians 4:6-7).
However, when we pray for something that is God’s will, the Lord will answer our prayer by opening the necessary doors (1 John 5:14-15). Thus, to really know if God is going to put you two together, you need to ask God to put you two together if it’s his will. And if he answers yes, this won’t just result in internal peace, though that should be present, too. Rather, his yes will result in you two connecting in real life.
This is a big topic that can be covered from many different angles. So here’s a related article titled How to Let God Choose Your Spouse.
