
Yes, it’s your job as a man to pursue your future wife. However, your future wife will need to be able to notice you once you do find her. You can help her see you as her future husband by doing certain things.
A hard relationship is not necessarily the wrong relationship. Confusion is not always a sign God is saying no. And while the man is the pursuer, this does not mean you will get to sit there and do nothing while your future husband does all the hard parts of making this relationship come into existence.