
Yes, it’s your job as a man to pursue your future wife. However, your future wife will need to be able to notice you once you do find her. You can help her see you as her future husband by doing certain things.
Are you being too judgmental? Are your standards too high? Will you always be single if you don’t compromise on your spiritual requirements for a spouse?
Or are you being too risky by giving someone a chance who is showing signs of immaturity? Are you ignoring God’s command to guard your heart because you are trying to be too nice to people that you should just reject?