5 Early Warning Signs a Woman Is Untrustworthy

1 John 2:15-17

Once a man finds out that a woman is untrustworthy, usually she’s already used him before he realized what was actually happening.

While you can’t predict the future and eliminate all risk in relationships, the Bible certainly does give us wisdom so we can pick up on clues that often mean a woman is not who she is pretending to be.

Therefore, here are 5 early warnings signs that often mean a woman is untrustworthy. And to be clear, the principles discussed in the article could be applied to men or women. However, we will just be applying them to women today.

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1. Vague Language When Explaining Her Relationship with Another Man Is Often a Sign She’s Untrustworthy

Some women mislead men not through telling lies but rather through withholding the full truth. Because she has not verbalized something untrue, she feels she is still being honest, thus easing her own conscious and escaping the guilt of an outright lie.

However, as we all know, deception can happen through withholding information as well. Thus Ephesians 4:25 states, “Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.” A partial truth is not the truth. To put away falsehood, you have to speak the truth, not just avoid verbalizing lies.

For example, if you ask a woman, “Are you seeing anyone?” she might say, “No, not really.” If you ask, “What does ‘not really’ mean?” she might then say, “It’s nothing serious. This guy likes me but I don’t like him.” If you then press, “Do you see him a lot?” she could then say, “Not really. We go on some dates sometimes but we are not an official couple.”

A simple yes or no is all you needed. If a woman is making you jump through verbal hoops, read between the lines, and ask a bunch of follow up questions, this usually means she’s not telling the whole truth.

2. Unexplainable Hot and Cold Behavior Usually Means You Should Not Trust Her

If a woman pays attention to you but then she ignores you only to start paying attention again, you might think you are doing something to cause this inconsistency in her. You might be. However, oftentimes this is a sign she’s using you to feel better about herself when something bad happens in the parts of her life that you know nothing about.

For example, if she goes out to the club and gets rejected by a guy she likes, she might call you when she gets home. If she’s bored one weekend because her friends cancelled on her, she might want to hang out with you. If her first option for date to a wedding didn’t pan out, she might then ask you to go with her at the last minute.

There is a reason for her hot and cold behavior, but for an untrustworthy woman, it has nothing to do with you. There are things going on in her life that you know nothing about that are causing her to come to you when she wants to feel better about herself.

Look for a woman who wants to practice Philippians 2:4 with you, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

3. A Disgust Towards Biblical Masculinity Is a Sign She’s Not to Be Trusted

A modern feminist isn’t just looking to fight for the rights of women. She actually hates men.

It doesn’t matter if she’s physically attractive, charming, or seems to really like you. If she obviously hates biblical masculinity, avoid her. You’ll save yourself a lot of unnecessary drama and pain (Proverbs 31:3).

Proverbs 31:30, “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

4. Expecting You to Play the Traditional Male Role in Dating While Not Fulfilling the Traditional Female Role in Dating Is a Sign She’s Untrustworthy

Ironically, many modern women who despise biblical men still want to be treated like a lady. They will still expect you to do the things a man has traditionally done, like ask her out, pay for the meal, and pursue her going forward. However, this type of women will feel like she is free from her traditional feminine roles. 

A woman like this is selfish. She wants to ignore God’s word and still be blessed by men who want to honor God’s word. Never trust a woman like this. Rather, look for a woman who wants to offer respect to the man that loves her (Ephesians 5:33). 

5. An Obsession with Her Phone and Online Persona Means You Should Not Trust Her

Satan’s claws are reaching through people’s phones and warping their minds (Romans 12:2). A woman who can’t hold a normal conversation with you because she has to check her phone every two minutes is not the type of woman you can trust.

Her obsession with her online persona and with what’s happening in the world is a sign she’s not passionately following the Lord. 1 John 2:15-17 states:

Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life —is not from the Father but is from the world.”

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