The person God actually has for us never matches the exact image of the person we imagined them to be.
In fact, the imperfections this person will have can actually be used by God to reveal them as your future spouse. Therefore, here are 5 imperfections God will use to point out your partner in life.
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1. Your Partner Will Have a Specific Sin Tendency that You Will Have Grace for
While all true Christians still have a sin nature in their body even though we are new creations in Christ (Romans 7:20, Ephesians 4:22-24), it’s also true that each individual will have different specific sin tendencies.
In other words, we all are susceptible to sin in different ways. Some may not be tempted by lust while lust might be other people’s main struggle. Some may be very patient while others will always have to fight the sin of impatience. Some don’t struggle with pride that much while others will always need to be on extra guard against this sin.
The point is, while we will have different weaknesses, we all will have some sort of particular weakness. When it comes to choosing a partner, you might meet someone with a sin tendency that you just can’t accept. Perhaps this person’s anger scares you. Perhaps this person’s pride is extremely annoying to you. Or perhaps this person’s passivity makes you want to violently shake them in anger.
When you meet the person God has for you, you will have a supernatural grace for their particular sin patterns. 1 Peter 4:8, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
To be clear, I’m not saying you should marry someone who is walking in darkness and not repenting. But I am saying that your future spouse will be sinful. And yet, God will give you grace for this person, and he will give them grace for you. In Christ, he will lead you to continue to repent together as he sanctifies you more and more (Romans 5:20, 2 Corinthians 3:18, Galatians 6:1-2).
If you don’t have grace for each other, don’t get married.
2. God Will Use Your Partner’s “Imperfect” Physical Appearance to Highlight Them to You
I put the word “imperfect” here in quotations because, in a way, all of our bodies are just the way God wants us. Psalm 139:13, “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.”
God isn’t going to take every attribute you find most attractive and form a specific person that meets all of your sexual desires. However, when you meet the person God wants you to marry, you will be physically attracted to this person.
And not only that, but the “imperfections” you each have will actually be appreciated because those are what make us all different. When you fall in love with God’s choice for you, you will love that person for who they are, “flaws” and all.
Song of Solomon 1:2, “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine.” She didn’t say “Let a 6’2” man with brown hair and blue eyes kiss me with the kisses of his mouth.” Rather, because she loved this specific man, she could say to him “your love” is better.
So don’t look for a perfect person. Look for your person. They will become your standard of beauty that you desire in a spouse (Song of Solomon 2:2-3).
3. God Will Use This Person’s Personality Flaws to Point Them Out to You
Everything I just said about physical appearance also translates to personality. While you should enjoy the personality of the person you choose to marry, no one has a perfect personality.
It’s also true that a human personality isn’t constant. In different situations, we all act differently. In small groups, someone might be very lively and funny. In large groups, they might be very shy and reserved. When well rested, someone might be very talkative. When tired, they might be very quiet.
So you won’t marry someone who perfectly fits your personality. However, you will come to love this person’s personality because it is who they are. Song of Solomon 2:16, “My beloved is mine, and I am his . . .” That phrase “my beloved” is key. When someone becomes yours, you will love who they are.
4. God Will Use This Person’s History of Wrongs to Point Them Out to You
I’m not saying that you must be okay to marry someone no matter what their past is. While we can accept anyone in the general Christian sense because God’s grace is sufficient for all our sins, when it comes to choosing a spouse, it’s not wrong to choose not to be with someone because of something in their past.
Some of you only want to marry another virgin, while others of you don’t care what someone’s past sexual sins were. Some of you would be scared off by someone’s past addictions, while others of you would be able to accept this risk of marrying someone with an addiction history. Some of you are unwilling to inherit someone’s poor financial history, while others of you would be willing to help this person if you were to combine finances in marriage. While we should not judge each other because we are all sinful (Matthew 7:1), it’s not wrong to assess someone for marriage based upon past actions.
However, when you meet the person God has for you, you won’t be able to accept them because they have a perfect past. Rather, you will have grace for the mistakes they have made, and you will want to be a part of God’s redemption story being written in their life.
5. God Will Use Their Need for Your Sacrifice to Highlight Your Future Spouse
To make marriage happen one day, you will have to make sacrifices. The timing isn’t going to be perfect. You two will have different desires. You will have conflicting goals.
And yet, the similarity you will both experience is that you will both be happy to make the necessary sacrifices to be together. True love is always expressed through choosing to sacrifice (John 15:13).
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